I learned recently that Rob, known to many as “Bearcuffs,” passed away some months ago. The cause was cancer. Bearcuffs was a jovial man who was loved by many. He collected handcuffs and other restraints of all kinds, and over the years he locked up many men in his gear — including me. He was a kind soul, and he will be missed.
I am in San Francisco this week, and I am staying with the guys who run the Serious Male Bondage website. Yesterday we visited Kink.com, parent company for Bound Gods. We got to meet and interview Van Darkholme — who is much hotter in real life — and he gave us a rare, behind-the-scenes tour of some of the sets they use for the Bound Gods movies. Van told us about a brand new website he is launching, which I am sure will be a huge hit.
We also visited Mr S, and Richard Hunter gave us a behind-the-scenes tour of not only the store, but also his private playroom. Wait until I tell you about his padded isolation cell!
Tonight we are having dinner with Mikey of the popular Guys Tied Up bondage blog and his partner, Daddy Tony, and Yossie, the world-famous pervert and handcuff collector.
More pictures and information coming soon to Metalbond . . .
So I had another session with Neil the Erotic Hypnotist, and I have been meaning to write about it. (If you missed the posting on my FIRST erotic hypno session with Neil, click here.) Neil knows how to use hypnosis for bondage and control. This time, we decided to start at my place and then take the action to the New York Bondage Club for some play in public. It turned out to be a memorable evening.
Neil came over late on a Sunday afternoon, and we spent some time discussing the various goings-on in our lives, some of the mutual friends and acquaintances we have and our respective workout routines (Neil spends a lot of time in the gym, and it shows). We also talked about New York City real estate. That’s because whenever two or more New Yorkers get together for any reason, under any circumstances, the conversation always, inevitably, touches on real estate at some point. It is an un-alterable law of nature, just like that of gravity.
Anyway, after our catching up on a social level, we decided it was time for me to go into a trance under Neil’s guidance, to be prepped with triggers for our visit a bit later to the Bondage Club. The focus of our play was again to be on bondage and control, without the use of restraints.
Neil had me lie back on my futon and get comfortable. I had darkened the room. The air conditioning was on, making the temperature pleasant. The phone ringers were turned off. The key was for me to relax, to listen to Neil’s voice as he coached me to let myself fall into a deep, almost dreamlike state of consciousness. I remember he told me at one point, after I had closed my eyes and started to drift away, that my right arm was light as a helium balloon. I did sense that my arm started to rise up off the futon, as it if really were lighter than air. It was an interesting feeling.
Neil also gave me several mental triggers that he planed to use on me later. One of them, “cuffs,” meant that I was to clasp my hands tightly behind my back as if they were cuffed, until he gave the “release” command. Another trigger, “statue,” meant that I was to remain frozen in place, unable to move, until released. He also gave me a command called “grab,” which meant that I would grab onto an object and not let go. He also gave me commands to feel “horny” and “sensitive.”
After Neil brought me out of the trance, he tested the triggers on me in my apartment, and, satisfied that they were working, we departed my place and headed for the Bondage Club. When we got there, I stripped down to just my boots and gave Neil all of my clothes to put in his backpack.
I’ve been going to the New York Bondage Club for many years, even way back when they met at J’s, and I know that some nights there are better than others. The club this particular night had an interesting crowd and a nice vibe.
One of the first things Neil did was get my hands “restrained” behind my back using the “cuffs” command. With my hands behind my back, we walked around the club and viewed some of the other scenes that were playing out. To me, it felt like my hands really were restrained, just as if they were tightly tied with rope or leather. They did not budge as we wandered about.
We weren’t the only ones playing, of course. There was a fit young man getting tied down with actual restraints on his back with his ass up in the air. Another dude with a large dick was tied inside a cage, then tickled and tormented. In another area of the club, a guy was giving erotic massages. At one point Neil had me “cuffed” around a post while we watched a particularly interesting scene, and during this time I was rock hard. He also took me over to the bondage chair the NYBC has built into a wall and had me sit down, feet firmly planted on the floor, and he ordered me to “grab” the rings so that my arms were splayed out in a wide spread eagle. Normally at the Bondage Club, a man would be TIED into such a position. But, with hypnosis, Neil was able to have me restrained here without the use of any ropes or cuffs. He kept me like that for quite a while, and it was interesting to watch the reactions of some of the other club-goers as they walked by and witnessed the situation I was in.
Later, after we had played for a while and got a bit more relaxed, we showed some of the other guys there, including several of the regulars, what we were doing. Many of these other guys were intrigued and asked some interesting questions. Mike, who runs the Bondage Club and who has seen me engage in lots and lots of play there over the years involving lots of equipment taken out of my gear bag, was impressed that I was tied up mentally, without actual physical restraints.
One thing I definitely noticed at the Bondage Club is that I seemed to respond more to the triggers involving physical restraint and control, rather than to the commands involving the way I was to feel or to perceive sensations. For example, I really did feel that my hands were actually locked behind my back for stretches of time. In fact, when Mike tried to pull my wrists apart to test this, he was unable to. My arms were securely locked behind my back. The triggers also worked very well when Neil had me grab those rings in the wall and stay that way — I was like that a long time, well past the point at which holding the position became uncomfortable.
But when Neil gave the commands to make me feel “horny” or that my skin would be “sensitive,” I can’t really say with certainty that these sorts of commands had much effect.
Maybe this is more because I enjoyed being ordered around by a hot, muscular guy, rather than I was under the effects of hypnosis. I’m not really sure. And it’s also what makes me wonder about the effectiveness of hypnosis itself. Upon discussing the session later with Neil, he insisted that the hypnotic restraints were in no way voluntary.
“It’s true that you had no problem keeping your hands behind your back, but you also didn’t have much of a choice,” Neil told me in a follow-up email. “I know that with hypnosis it’s often hard to tell the difference, since the conscious mind has a tendency to rationalize things,” he said.
I guess Neil might say he created an undeniable force for me — something akin to gravity.
Nevertheless, no matter what Neil says, and no matter how hot all this was, and despite everything I have read recently on the topic of hypnosis, I must admit that I am STILL a little skeptical of it all. Maybe I just need to experience more hypnosis sessions, as I understand it does take practice to go into deeper trances.
The bottom line is that I am glad that Neil and I had this new session — and I am definitely curious enough to do more of this type of play in the future. Next time, perhaps, we can focus on other forms of control, like getting me to exercise longer and harder at the gym. Neil tells me this type of control is another of his specialties.
To learn more about Neil, you can visit his personal website by clicking on his picture, directly below:
Here are some recent messages that were sent to me from blog readers:
Dear Metal,
Here’s a fantasy I’ve had for some time: I show up at your hotel room. I enter, close and lock the door. I face the locked door and strip to my jock strap. My cock is throbbing in its locked chastity belt. I put my black spandex hood on, the one with only a mouth hole, and my 2-inch locking leather collar over it. I snap the lock. I slip on my bondage mitts, and one by one, I lock the padlocks. I clasp my hands in the small of my back, legs spread, and wait your orders. I’m vulnerable. I’m your prisoner. My mouth is yours. I don’t know if or when I will see you, or if the chastity belt will come off, and if it does, will I come?
— Canada
Dear Metal,
It would be cool to be bound in a way that my exposed crotch is constantly tormented by another bound person’s booted foot.
—Virginia
Dear Metal,
I’m curious about what kind of restraint you are in the pic [below] — some kind of canvas sack? Looks nice!
—Virginia
That’s a leather sleepsack that was designed and built by Jim Stewart of Fetters, in London, with the tanned leather side on the inside and the rougher suede leather on the outside. This is a piece of vintage bondage equipment that is no longer available commercially. I was fortunate enough to have been kept in it overnight many years ago (over another sleepsack of black leather, so I am actually in TWO sacks) by BondagemanSF, who also gave me the Mohawk.
—Metal
Dear Metal,
I just spent a little time on your site. Truly excellent. Great pics, graphics, presentation. Creative, professional and very well designed. Congratulations!
—New York state
Dear Metal,
I’m from Brazil. If you monitor from were come your readers, I suspect that I am the only one who is reading your blog on this country, unless you also count my boy.
—Brazil
According to my site stats, there are almost 3,000 visitors from 137 different cities in Brazil.
—Metal
Metal,
Your site is blocked in Thailand. Should that be considered a good thing?
—via the internet
Hi Metal,
Have not been in touch for a while. After 100 days in chastity the relief was fantastic and am now waiting for new instructions from anyone interested in confining my desires. You did not get pics, as I had a few problems near end of my incarceration.
But I have to say that I continue to get so hot looking at your site and again say I get a kick out of all the time u spend getting us guys HOT!!!
Best,
drubind aka chastrubpig
Thanks to the inspiration of Marknorth and others, I have been more and more intrigued lately by the concept of bondage without restraints, and that reminded me of a session I had a while back with Neil the Erotic Hypnotist. Check him out:
After reading about this guy on Ben in Leather Land, Bob Wingate and a couple other websites, I became interested in seeing what it would be like to be put in bondage through the use of hypnosis. I must admit, even after reading about this, that I was a bit skeptical. In fact, my impression of hypnosis up to that point was that it was all a bunch of hocus-pocus, and that it would never work on me.
However, the whole idea did seem rather exciting, perhaps even little bit dangerous, and so my curiosity won out. I contacted Neil, and after a few emails back and forth I set up a session with him. Immediately upon meeting him, I was put at ease by his personality and his demeanor. He’s also a rather good-looking guy, which was a definite plus.
We met in a third-party location, a rented room equipped with a couch and a massage table. We began with a simple discussion of some of my interests — specifically, to experience a feeling of being controlled and restrained. Then Neil started to explain to me what we would be doing and how it would work.
The basic concept, Neil explained, is for the subject to enter a deeply relaxing state under coaching, so that the hypnotist could then verbally implant suggestions or “triggers” in my subconscious mind that would elicit a specific behavior later on. He explained to me the difference between the conscious and the subconscious parts of the brain. The conscious mind is where all rational thought takes place, while the subconscious mind is about habits and things we (i.e. our conscious minds) see as doing on “auto-pilot.” These can be quite complex, like driving, or like locking the door when you leave your apartment. Hypnotic suggestions to the subconscious mind can cause the subject to later do things without thinking about them. (Come to think of it, I can’t tell you how many times I have left my apartment, only to wonder later whether I had remembered to lock the door on my way out. I have no memory of doing this, yet I do it every time. That is my subconscious mind at work.)
The trick with hypnosis is to tap into the subconscious part of the mind, and to do that the subject has to let go temporarily of the conscious mind. It was all about learning to relax, and so he had me lie back on the couch as he talked me through it. The relaxations exercises were fantastic, and for me they were erotically charged as well. He had me imagine I was resting on a sandy beach while listening to the waves lap peacefully against the shore, or he had me walk quietly down a long staircase into a room with a bed, where I could rest and relax. With every passing minute, I felt more and more relaxed. It was all about letting go of all my tension, all my worries, and going deeper and deeper into a state of relaxation. And it worked. (In fact, if we had done nothing more than this relaxation exercise, I would have left a very happy man.)
He had me “go under” four or five times in total, and in each instance I went deeper and deeper into this state of relaxation. And each time he implanted into my subconscious several “triggers” when I was under, that he later used to elicit certain responses or actions from me.
One of the triggers was that when he made a specific gesture with one of his hands, that I would remove an article of clothing. And sure enough, upon my waking up, he made this gesture and I actually did start to remove my clothes. Before long I was totally naked. How did he do that? Did I take off my clothes because I was under hypnosis? Or because I really wanted to get naked in front of him? Perhaps a little of both? I am not sure.
He had me go under a few more times, and he implanted more triggers. One of them was that when he touched my body in a certain location, that I would immediately place my hands behind my back as if they were tied tightly together. And sure enough, after he had me wake up again, he used this trigger to “restrain” my hands behind my back. He kept me like that for quite a while. And while that feeling of skepticism remained in the back of my head, I really did keep my hands behind my back until he later used another trigger to release me. He also used a few other triggers on me, including one that turned me into a statue, and another that made me very horny — a feeling, in fact, that lasted for several days and weeks.
Do I think that I really was hypnotized, or that I kept my hands behind my back on purpose? It is an interesting question, isn’t it?
When I departed Neil’s presence later in the evening, I left with a feeling of excitement, and also one of deep relaxation. He told me I would sleep very well that night (another benefit of the relaxation techniques he used), and I did. Mostly I felt exhilarated after having had this new experience.
Later, Neil reminded me that the conscious mind doesn’t understand the subconscious mind or the process of hypnosis, so it has a tendency to rationalize things, like “I just wanted to take my clothes off,” “it was hot in the room” or “I just didn’t feel like moving my arms,” etc. That’s perhaps why I still had doubts later, he said, as to whether I was really hypnotized or just playing along.
Was I glad I had visited Neil? Absolutely. For me, it was an interesting way of experiencing a different form of bondage and control.
To learn more about Neil, visit his website by clicking here.
Thanks to Mark at Serious Male Bondage for the pictures!
Thanks for the book, Steve!
Hey prisoners,
As you know, I am fascinated by things that LOCK.
And when it comes to chastity, there is nothing better than a device that has a serious locking mechanism. Like the Carrera. Lately I have been quite intrigued by the this particular device, and so I asked a ccontrol, a reader of this blog who is familiar with both the older and newer models, to describe the actual locking mechanism.
The pictures and information below is from ccontrol.
—Metal
How the LOCK for the new Carrera chastity device works
By ccontrol
The old belt is built around an Abus brass padlock. A slide knob above the lock is for releasing the tangs after the lock is unlocked. A push tab on top secures the tangs and locks the padlock. The teeth are hidden inside the front panel, and the tangs have simple knobs on them that are engaged by the teeth.
The new belt is built around an Abus Diskus lock. There is a similar slide knob, but it doesn’t do the same thing. Instead, you put it in the up position to be able to turn the key, and you put it in the down position to be able to move the tangs in and out. The teeth are on the tangs, making the new belt seem even more like a giant handcuff than the old one.
Much like a handcuff, the new tang ratchets in. With the old belt, the tang is inserted and then engaged with the hidden teeth by feel. You can count step down the slope of teeth until you get the fit you want. With both belts, the teeth give you some adjustability.
On the new belt, there are short levers in the insertion slot, just below where the tangs go in. These must be pushed upward to disengage the tangs for removal, after you have unlocked the lock.
You can see on the old pics where the key is inserted vertically into the bottom of he padlock:
To make it into this recess, Walter had to trim one side off of the head of each key. This confined area means that the key can’t be on a keyring when you are unlocking the belt — and not having the key on a ring makes it easier to lose (I only lost one of my two keys, LOL). The new key goes straight in and can therefore be left on a ring. On the other hand, it can’t be removed while the lock is unlocked. This is a minor detail, but it means that you can’t send someone the belt to lock themselves into without them also having the key (for example).
The old belt has a flat steel strap in back. It has 5 holes drilled in the top where it attaches to the back of the belt, so it can be adjusted for size. The new belt has a coated steel cable instead of the strap. It also has 5 holes on the end tab for adjustability.
The new belt is curved downward along is top edge to accommodate a bit of belly. However, the whole front part is a little taller on the new belt, so is more likely to dig in to those of us who aren’t perfectly flat in front:
You can’t see them in the pics, but there are drain/vent holes on the underside of the tube. They are of course too small to allow for any stimulation … and there’s no big gaps to bulge through like there are on CBX000 or Curve devices.
On the inside pic you can see a screw hold in the base of the cable. This is for attaching an oval plate with a slot in it. An optional butt plug has a metal bolt that engages with the slot. The slot means that the plug will be in the right position to line up with your hole, but it is not removable while the belt is on.
These things are the Rolls Royces of chastity belts. I saved up for years to afford them, and they’re worth the price and the pain of waiting for them to arrive, and the time spent bending them to make them fit, etc.
Metalbond would like to thank ccontrol for the information and pictures above.
