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Male chastity health and safety concerns

Have you ever wondered about the health and safety concerns involved with wearing a male chastity device? If so, you are not alone. There’s a helpful article on this topic available at Total Chastity — a site with plenty of useful information, as well as a wide selection of chastity devices for sale.

Male chastity health and safety concerns


Article on male chastity health and safety concerns available here

The main Total Chastity website is here

Male chastity health and safety concerns

There is a difference between consensual bondage and abuse

A number of readers got in touch about a particular two-part story I recently posted. Thank you for the feedback. I wish to express my apologies for those who got turned off with that one. That story features a dark fantasy that one writer wanted to share — but many readers pointed out that it went too far, especially in the second part, crossing the line from consensual play into abuse. It’s definitely not something that should be done in real life. I thought about deleting the story altogether, but I have since gone back and added a warning message to both parts of the story.

UPDATE: After receiving more comments and emails from concerned readers about the story, I have decided to delete it from the Metalbond site. If the author posts it elsewhere I will share a link.

This offers a good opportunity to point out that while men are depicted on this website being bound, restrained, tied up and dominated — everything depicted here is presumed to be consensual. The stories are for fantasy and jerking off, not to be carried out in real life.

When engaging in bondage, S/M or any other sexual activity, always remember that there is definitely a difference between fantasy and reality, between consensual bondage play and abuse. Here’s a helpful graphic to help you spot the difference:

the difference between BDSM and abuse

There are a number of articles available online about the difference between healthy BDSM activity and abuse.

A really good place to start is the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom.

Also check out Psychology Today (where the graphic above is from) and verywell.com.

What’s wrong with these pictures?

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I was always told that when it comes to electro, keep it BELOW the waist. I see this stuff in gay bondage porn quite a lot. But you don’t want to run an electrical current through someone’s body close to the heart.


There is nothing wrong with fantasizing, of course. If you look closely at these pictures of Lance from Dream Boy Bondage, you might notice that he is clamped with rubber-tipped nip clamps, so there is no actual electrical current involved. In other words, what is pictured is “simulated electro” for fantasy purposes only.

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Bottom line: Just because you see something on the Tumbly thing or in porn, doesn’t mean you should do it in real life.