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POW of POW’s Fiction – Gay S&M Stories sent the information and pictures below, about how he was inspired to build his very own pillory, and how he pulled it off! See below:
I never paid much attention to pillories. But then one made an appearance in A Left Turn at Albuquerque – Part 07, and it caught my eye. Trying to avoid giving away any spoilers, this (heavily edited) exchange takes place:
Jailer: “How are you holding up in that thing?”
Prisoner: “It’s not comfortable.”
Jailer: “It’s not supposed to be.”
Followed by:
Prisoner: “Can you let me out of this thing?”
Jailer: “Of course I can. But I’m not going to. Under our rules, badly behaved convicts have to be in the pillory for at least five hours.”
That fed right into something that is one of my core interest areas: long-term bondage with some sort of discomfort. Since I don’t know anyone who has a pillory, I decided to build one. Here’s the result:
For the record, I am in no way a competent woodworker or craftsman, but nevertheless I’m pleased with how it turned out. If I could build this, I think almost anyone could. Very little skill required, just make sure you take adequate safety precautions.
A typical pillory rests on a supporting stand. That was more complicated than I cared to attempt, but I had a good alternative: hang it from the steel beam running across my basement ceiling, and attach the sides to the support pillars that hold the beam up. The point is: The essential part of a pillory is the two separable wooden bars with half-holes in each for neck and wrists. Everything else is variable and you can adapt to suit whatever circumstances you have.
Note that whatever support you use, remember to fix only the bottom part of the pillory in place so the top part is free to move.
Measurements are given in inches and feet because that’s what’s available in my local hardware store. Convert to centimeters as needed at 1 inch = 2.5 cm.
Mark all measurements before drilling anything.
I considered applying some sort of stain or sealant but decided I prefer the look and feel of raw wood. If you do want to apply something, this is the time to do it.
If you plan to use this with a partner, you’re done. The wing nuts on the threaded rods will be enough to lock the upper board against the lower one. The prisoner won’t be able to untwist them and set himself free, although the rods are tantalizingly close to his fingers and he will be tempted to try to reach them. He won’t be able to, though it will be fun to watch until he gives up.
If you want to use this for solo play, you’ll need a different way to hold the boards together. Make metal brackets to do the job.
My metal strip came with pre-punched holes all along the center. If yours didn’t, you’ll need to drill a half-inch-diameter hole to fit over the threaded rod.
To use, put your neck into the neck hole but leave your wrists free. Fit each bracket over one of the threaded rods. Lift the top board slightly, just enough to get your wrists in place without dislodging the brackets, then lower the board back down. You should then be able to clamp the brackets into the locked position. Reason for this sequence: it’s difficult to fit the brackets onto the threaded rods with neck and wrists all placed in their holes; much easier to do it with free hands.
Making bends that are more than 90 degrees means that when they’re in place, the brackets apply up-and-down pressure to the two boards and hold them firmly together. That pressure also ensures that the brackets won’t slip loose until you deliberately remove them.
Your setup may vary, but mine works like this. I suspended chains from the overhead beam using S-hooks.
Those chains hold up the pillory using the mounting bolts. Then straps go through the wrist holes and down to the base of the posts that support the overhead beam.
I cranked those straps down tight, and the pillory was fixed in position in up/down and left/right directions. Not shown: I tied the front mounting bolts to the wall studs in front, and the back bolts to a heavy table behind. That fixed the thing in all three dimensions so it could not move or tilt more than half an inch in any direction.
Again, if you’re a more talented woodworker than I am, you can create a support post and feet for your pillory. This version worked well enough for me. The pillory was fixed firmly enough that during my testing I couldn’t budge it; it held me exactly in position no matter how I struggled.
Important safety note, applicable to any self-bondage situation: plan and test and have multiple escape routes. Some people like to use timers or ice locks; I prefer to have an instant out available in case of emergency. House fire, sudden medical issue, whatever the reason, I want to be able to get free quickly when necessary. But within that constraint, I like the bondage to be real and secure. Using the metal brackets as locks meets those criteria. The locks are flush against the wood and easily reachable when needed but otherwise out of the way. Also, releasing either one is enough to get completely free — if my right hand were to go numb for some reason, I could open the left lock, get the left hand out, then reach under and release the right lock.
I ran a bunch of short test scenarios until I was confident everything was working as designed. I even did an hour-long trial run without using the locks just to see how my body would react. It went well. After that I was feeling like I could go considerably longer so I planned a test for real.
I decided on a three-hour sentence. Well short of the five hours described in the Alburquerque story, but long enough. The verdict? Success!
Standing was boring and uncomfortable, but it did not feel dangerous at any time. Comfort-wise, it made for a good mid-range experience. A sleepsack provides very comfortable bondage. When wrapped up snug in one of those you can drift away into a happy sub mindspace and stop noticing the passage of time. A Roman-style cross, at the other extreme, is incredibly uncomfortable. There is no getting into a Zenlike “I’m not here” mental space when hanging on one of those. The pillory, I learned, is in between. I found it to be uncomfortable enough that I could never zone out. I was always keenly aware of the slow passage of time and of my body’s discomfort. But the discomfort was never bad enough that I felt the need to cut the scene short and stop. I never felt in danger of lasting harm. Physically, I think I could have stayed there much longer. Mentally, though, I hit my limit for solo play and would have needed an enforcer to keep me there any longer once the three-hour alarm sounded.
Afterward, my arms were sore for the next thirty-ish minutes, and at first I was unable to lift them very high behind me. Soon enough that passed, and they were back to normal. My neck remained a little bit stiff for several hours, but there were no lasting after-effects from the experience.
I found this to be a worthwhile project, fun to build and fun to experiment with. I learned that a pillory provides exactly the sort of experience that pushes my buttons: long-term uncomfortable bondage. I really did not know how effective the pillory was at delivering that and find myself much more a fan of the device having now given it a chance. A big “thank you” to author Hunter Perez for providing the inspiration!
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Note from Metal: In honor of today (January 14) being International Male Chastity Day, Squirm of the RubberZone site has generously allowed me to share this article and pictures of how he built his very own custom chastity belt! See below.
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Version 1.0 – September 22, 2023
Originally posted to RubberZone.com
This article is also available as a PDF download: RubberZone_CheapoChastityExperiment_v1.pdf
I’ve been modifying some inexpensive “generic” full chastity belts that I’ve purchased from an overseas eBay seller. After some amount of success, I thought that others would be interested in this process and could apply some of these techniques to their own chastity devices.
This section is a bit long and explains my experience with chastity and how/why I came to do these experiments. If you just want the how-to’s, please skip to the next section.
I’ve had fantasies about chastity since my sexual awakening (I was into bondage even before that). Over the years, I’ve tried various devices, but haven’t had much success.
I think this is largely due to my own body. My balls are a bit above average in size and have a wide range of “travel” depending on temperature, and I’m definitely a “grower” not a “shower” when soft. My taint and scrotum are also very sensitive.
This makes wearing ball-capture devices (such as the “Holy Trainer” or “CB3000”) difficult, in terms of sizing and security, but most importantly in terms of pain. Nighttime erections would tug on my balls (this is expected) but also create a tight spot on my scrotum that would feel like searing, burning pain, and would not subside for a long while if the device was adjusted. And, when in bondage (as I often am), not being able to touch or adjust the device would mean intense scene-ruining pain. No drifting off to dreamland in bondage while also chaste.
I used to think I was a “wuss’, and that clearly people online were having great success with chastity. I once tried wearing a ball-capture device for 10 full days without removal, hoping to build up a tolerance. In fact, the opposite happened, with the pain being so intense even during the daytime when I could shift things around, that I gave up.
Over 10 years ago, at a play party, someone let me try on their full belt. It was a “Reinhold” belt (unfortunately no longer available), and it did not entrap the balls, and it fit me very well. I wore it for a couple of hours at the party and experienced no discomfort. (Also unfortunately nobody at the party took the initiative to exploit my predicament. Oh well!)
Around that same time, another friend let me try on a “Latowski” belt. This one was way too loose in the waistband, so I could get out of it, but the silicone encased cock/ball area was very comfortable.
Based on those two experiences, I had high hopes that a full chastity belt with waistband and everything could work for me.
But, there were still hurdles. Most full belts at the time were very expensive, and most had little adjustability and my weight and waistline were fluctuating a lot. And, frankly, when I weighed more, my belly/love-handles would overhang the metal waistbands and feel uncomfortable or sticky.
In recent years, I’ve gotten my weight under control (it’s still not quite where I want things, self-image-wise, but my waistline is at least stable), and I’ve on occasion been in a position where I could purchase a full belt without feeling too much financial pain.
Still, there were problems. One well-established vendor who makes premium belts just wouldn’t return emails with simple pre-sale questions. This has in fact happened at least three times in different years when I’ve decided to make a purchase.
Another more recently established well-known vendor provided me with two belts and some custom options, such as a made-to-measure cock tube that doesn’t need a ball capture ring. But I just can’t wear their belts long-term. I appreciate their customer service and everything arrived as advertised, so I won’t name them, as others seem to have good results with their designs and the point of this article isn’t to be a belt review.
The problem with theirs isn’t the waistline, it’s the design of the cock tube, which is not a true tube but more of an open frame with various welds. Even though the welds are polished/smoothed, the shape of the frame creates various pinch points that lead to chafing. Once again, I’ve tried this belt on various 7-to-10-day “build a tolerance” periods, only to have to remove it when sections of skin on my cock shaft began to get raw. (I even got scarring one time that took two weeks to completely heal.)
And, having an open-frame “tube” might help with hygiene and temperature control, but it also means that urine goes everywhere. Now, it can be part of the chastity fantasy knowing that you always have to sit down on the toilet, but I still want the urine to go generally “down” and not create a clothes-wetting surprise shower at random times.
That experience pretty much put me off my quest for chastity for awhile.
Then, the pandemic came. For many of us, that meant spending a lot of time stuck at home, and not having rubber/bondage play with others. (I am partnered, and we do play together, but we both have other playmates for more intense fun with our respective fetishes.) As I was also a caregiver to a loved-one during this time, I didn’t want to risk picking up anything from a playmate and bringing it home.
And, for many of us, being stuck at home for extended periods meant a lot of online gear shopping and fantasizing. I decided if I wasn’t “getting any” on a regular basis, I may as well try being locked and seeing if I could solve my chastity-related issues.
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Chastity enthusiasts love finding new ways to punish their penises with restriction, ruined orgasms, slaps and whips, or even spikes. But a new contender has been growing in popularity in recent years, giving these slaves a new kind of punishment to try and endure.
This fetish is electrostimulation, and it’s one of the more interesting BDSM practices to explore.
What is Electrostimulation?
Just as the name implies, electrostimulation is the use of electrical impulses to stimulate specific parts of the body. Often this is used in forms of muscle therapy to treat pain or help heal injured muscles. For BDSM fans though, electrostimulation can be used for pleasure or pain play.
Zapping your own penis might sound like a bit of a nightmare, but it’s not as bad as it sounds. The shocks used in electrostimulation play are quite tame, and often described as tingly, which can be quite pleasurable. If you’re into pain play, the intensity might go up, but it will never be enough to cause serious pain. At worst it might feel like a short, sharp jolt, which should teach any slave a lesson when they misbehave.
Bringing Estim Into Chastity
It’s incredibly simple to start exploring estim: all you need is an estim cage! These devices are just like regular chastity cages, but they usually include small metal plates on the inner surface to deliver the shocks. Some models will require wires and a TENS unit to function, but newer devices such as the Sevanda Nautilus are designed to be an all in one solution that makes electro play simple.
Debunking Estim Myths
While electrostimulation has become more popular in recent years, like many fetishes it is surrounded by myths and misinformation that can push people away from the practice. Let’s dispel some of these.
The biggest misconception most people have with this kind of play is the pain element. It’s not uncommon for people to even refuse to try, purely because they worry it isn’t safe.
Like all BDSM play, electrostimulation needs to be approached carefully. Always make your play safe, sane and consensual, and if you push your limits you should do it gradually. Don’t go from a small tingle to 50V, or yes, you will hurt yourself. With the right attitude though, this kind of play shouldn’t ever hurt unless you want it to, and even if you are a pain-seeker, it should never be dangerous.
Another common misconception is that electrostimulation isn’t a fetish. This is very similar to many of the more unusual fetishes, where more “vanilla” people simply won’t believe that someone can enjoy or take pleasure from the practice. But we can definitely assure you that people do enjoy electrostimulation, and if you ever need to convince your friends or partner, then point them to this page.
Finally, let’s talk about orgasms. The myth of a hands-free orgasm is a bit like a holy grail for men. All of the pleasure with none of the effort, who wouldn’t want it?
So is it possible to orgasm from electrostimulation alone? Well, kind of.
We’ll be honest with you. Finding real evidence of someone having an estim orgasm is difficult. There’s porn, but we all know that can be staged. There’s descriptions and instructions throughout the internet, but there’s also plenty of people who tried and failed. Similarly to prostate orgasms, you’ll have to experiment and probably shouldn’t make it your main goal, but enjoy it if you get lucky.
For those who do claim to have experienced the elusive estim orgasm, it isn’t exactly what you’d expect. The electrical currents stimulate your nerves and create reactions in your body. So when you orgasm from this stimulation, it isn’t because it feels good on your penis, but because you’ve sent the right signal to your brain to experience pleasure. Kind of a brain orgasm.
Understanding Types of Electrostimulation
If you’re interested in this kind of play, then it might seem a little overwhelming at first to start exploring the kinds of estim devices you can use. Even within the umbrella of electrostimulation itself, there are several different kinds of devices that can deliver different kinds of stimulation.
We won’t cover all of them in detail, because they’re mainly used for medical purposes, but you may see the following:
Essentially each of these provides electrical shocks to your body in different ways, and they treat different kinds of illnesses. For the purposes of pleasure, though, there’s only one we’re interested in: TENS (transcutaneous electrical nerve stimulation).
TENS units are, generally, the least powerful and least functional of this kind of unit. But we’re not medical professionals giving treatment, we’re using them for pleasure, so this is exactly what we want.
The type of electrostimulation isn’t the only factor you’ll need to consider. You’ll also need to think about the kinds of shocks you’re providing (or receiving). Now we’re going to keep this brief, because most of you will find it quite boring, but you need to consider three elements of the shocks:
If you’re interested in this kind of play, we strongly encourage you to look into these things more, as they are very important to the kind of sensations you can feel while using estim devices. Essentially, though, you’re going to want to experiment with all three to see what you enjoy most, just like you would with any other sex toy.
The Science Behind Electricity and Pleasure
The topic may have been a little dry so far, but we’re finally getting to the good bit: pleasure.
How on earth could an electric shock provide pleasure? Let’s break it down.
Transcutaneous (the T in a TENS unit), means passing through the skin. So the shocks applied move right through the skin to make contact with the nerves inside your body. When the shock touches your nerve, it sends a signal to a specific part of your body or brain. Think about the old-fashioned doctor hitting your knee to see if your leg moves. Estim works like that, but with shocks.
When you figure out how to target the right nerves with shocks, you can produce a specific result. For example, targeting the right nerves in a painful area can desensitize it, reducing the amount of pain you feel. For pleasure, we want to target the nerves that send the correct signals to the brain to make it think we’re having sex. Basically tricking it.
It’s important to remember that electricity can only move through conductive materials. So if you’re wearing a full rubber gimp suit with just your penis uncovered, most of the electricity will be lost as the rubber absorbs it. To get the most out of your estim play, you need to make sure you’re well hydrated. Water is a great conductor and will help the electricity move throughout your body.
Nerve Pathways in the Penis
So which nerves do we need to simulate to have a chance of a hands-free orgasm? If you’ve ever looked at a diagram of the inside of the penis, you’ll see there’s a huge variety of nerves running both along the shaft, into the testicles, and deeper into the pelvic region. For electrostimulation, we only need to focus on two of these: the dorsal nerve and the perineal nerve.
The Dorsal Nerve
The dorsal nerve runs along the top of your penis, from base to tip, and carries messages from the glans (the head or bulbous part of the penis) to the brain. When you masturbate or have sex, the friction between your penis and the hand or a partner’s body parts are felt by this nerve, sending the messages of pleasure to the brain.
If you use electrical shocks to stimulate this nerve, the feeling will be mostly focused in the glans of the penis.
The Perineal Nerve
There are actually two perineal nerves in the pelvic region: the deep perineal nerve and the superficial perineal nerve. The deep nerve runs from the inside of the pelvic region to the inner end of the penis. Here it splits into both the dorsal nerve, and the superficial perineal nerve.
The superficial perineal nerve runs behind your scrotum, from your perineum (hence the name), and into the scrotum. If you’ve ever stroked your perineum, then you can easily imagine how estim could feel nice on this nerve.
Depending on the type of estim product you use, you may have small pads, which you can arrange to stimulate these nerves, or a cock ring, which you can place around both your scrotum and testicles to cross both nerves. If you’re using an estim chastity device, though, you won’t need to worry about this as the plates that provide the shocks are built into the cage.
Prioritizing Safety in Estim Play
As we touched on earlier, safety is of paramount importance when trying this kind of play. There are some simple rules you should always follow:
Do not practice estim if:
That’s a lot of rules, but it really is vitally important that you follow them. Practicing estim improperly is dangerous and can cause permanent damage or even death.
Another thing to watch out for is overstimulation. As you begin to apply shocks to your nerves, they will gradually become desensitized. This means you’ll need to increase the intensity of the shocks to maintain the same level of stimulation. If you have a particularly long session of estim, it’s easy to keep upping the voltage and end up with a much higher voltage than you intended to, so you need to keep a close eye on the TENS unit to make sure you don’t overdo it.
Using Your Estim Device
When the time comes to finally indulge in some electrical stimulation, the process is usually quite simple. If you’ve bought your estim device from a reputable vendor, then you should have everything you need to get started. The TENS unit should have several buttons that let you control the intensity and waveform (sometimes just called the shock pattern).
After you first turn on the device, it will usually provide a continuous stream of stimulation at the lowest power level. You normally won’t feel it though, as the intensity is too low, so gradually start increasing the intensity until you start to feel it.
Once you’ve found the lowest level of stimulation that you can actually feel, try out the different waveforms the device can produce so you can get an idea of the capabilities of your device.
If you’ve got the hang of the basics, feel free to start experimenting. Try different intensities and patterns and find what you enjoy. Try switching between different types of stimulation that pushes you closer and further away from the edge.
There’s really no hard and fast advice here. We’re all different so you’ll need to experiment and find out what works for you.
Potential Side Effects and Aftercare
Electrostimulation can carry side effects, so it’s important to pay attention to your own body. If you experience any of the following, stop using your device and take a break. If you regularly experience any of the following, then electrostimulation may not be the best kind of play for you.
Side effects:
If you’re already experienced with BDSM, then aftercare should be something you are already familiar with. When playing with estim toys, aftercare is a vitally important part of the process.
Firstly, spending some time discussing what you did with your partner, and going over the bits you enjoyed or disliked, can make the next time even better. It can also help the partner who was subjected to the pain (if you took it that far) have the time they need to decompress and talk through any difficult emotions they felt during the play. Sometimes all it takes is a hug!
Physically, electrostim can be quite draining. It’s a good idea to drink plenty of water and eat or drink things that will restore your electrolytes as they will be depleted by the play. You might feel some ghost tingles in the spots that were stimulated, but this is normal and should clear up in an hour or so. If they don’t go away, or if there’s any residual pain from your play, then you should seek medical attention.
Additional Tips for Estim Enthusiasts
It can be difficult to truly let go and enjoy the sensations of estim as it’s quite an unusual experience. Adding in some of your other sex toys can be a great way to take your mind off the shocks and really start to enjoy yourself.
Another tip we touched on before is not to focus too much on having a hands-free orgasm. While it can happen, it won’t always happen. If you’re focusing too much on having an orgasm, you won’t actually be enjoying the play, so you probably won’t orgasm. A bit of a vicious cycle.
We’ve said it several times, but we’ll repeat it again: take your time! Build up intensity gradually. Start with shorter sessions and gradually make them longer. Don’t jump in at the deep end!
Communication is also vital during your play. You should always be actively talking to your partner while the shocks are being delivered, and regularly checking that they are okay and can handle the stimulation. If at any point they ask you to stop, then you need to stop immediately. Due to this need for good communication, we don’t recommend doing estim play with anyone you don’t know well or trust completely.
Try Estim Now For a Shocking Experience!
We’ve covered a lot of information, but estim is a large and interesting topic. It does come with risks, though, so make sure you read all the information thoroughly and approach your play safely. When you do though, you can experience a range of feelings that no other sex toys can provide!
NOTE: The information above is presented for educational purposes only. If you choose to try electrostimulation, please research the topic thoroughly and ensure you know what you’re doing before starting. We are not medical or electrical experts and accept no responsibility for any harm caused by your electrostimulation play.
Metal would like to thank the folks at Lock The Cock for this article!
