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Mike James writes about power, submission, trust, and liberation — not just in relationships, but in how we claim space in our bodies and desires. With a background in kink education and personal exploration, his essays dive deep into the emotional and psychological layers of BDSM. He believes dominance and submission are languages worth learning, not just roles to perform. Find his latest writings and a community built for authentic kink encounters at BDSM Hookups - a platform where connection goes beyond surface-level swipes.

Two Weeks in a Cage

By Quandt

Part 1

The whole story.

I had been with my partner for more than ten years at the time.  We have never really defined our relationship but I think you could call it Master and slave.  I work, as does he.  We both have demanding and sometimes very stressful careers with too little vacation time.  My pay is direct deposited so I never know what happens to it or how much I actually make.

My partner takes care of all the details of my life for me.  It’s just the way it is.  I also pretty much live by his rules, moods and desires; having given up the desire to express myself in the relationship except to respect and show love to my partner and the men who make up our family.  I am happy this way and there are few rules except that I do as I am told when I am told.  Complaining about anything earns me a stint with a padlock through my septum piercing which is then locked to a ring in the wall, out of his sight.  I also wear a Latowski Chastity Belt most of the time which keeps me horny and also prevents me from acting on my whoring proclivities.

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Bondage

By Quandt

Everyone, especially those of us who are into kink like leather, rubber, bondage, SM or any of its derivatives has a particular set of fantasies that usually evolve from experience to the nest. There are those fantasies that persist even after experience or multiple similar experiences.  Sometimes I feel like I lose interest in everything.

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The Prince of Pain

By Quandt

I just got home after a weekend of play in the mountains of Georgia.  I want to share it with you.

I have been playing with Mike for about 15 years now.  We make a date for every six months and then alternate Top and Bottom positions so we bottom to each other at least once a year.  Anticipating our play dates keeps a lid on our excitement and gives us time to negotiate and roughly plan what might happen.

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