Have you ever wondered about the health and safety concerns involved with wearing a male chastity device? If so, you are not alone. There’s a helpful article on this topic available at Total Chastity — a site with plenty of useful information, as well as a wide selection of chastity devices for sale.
Article on male chastity health and safety concerns available here
The main Total Chastity website is here
Here’s a good idea for when you have him chained up in the basement: Baby monitors! With these, you can hear him if he calls out. And if you’re like me, you might also enjoy listening to him grunt in frustration!
The monitor shown above is used by Men in Chains and Serious Male Bondage
A number of readers got in touch about a particular two-part story I recently posted. Thank you for the feedback. I wish to express my apologies for those who got turned off with that one. That story features a dark fantasy that one writer wanted to share — but many readers pointed out that it went too far, especially in the second part, crossing the line from consensual play into abuse. It’s definitely not something that should be done in real life. I thought about deleting the story altogether, but I have since gone back and added a warning message to both parts of the story.
UPDATE: After receiving more comments and emails from concerned readers about the story, I have decided to delete it from the Metalbond site. If the author posts it elsewhere I will share a link.
This offers a good opportunity to point out that while men are depicted on this website being bound, restrained, tied up and dominated — everything depicted here is presumed to be consensual. The stories are for fantasy and jerking off, not to be carried out in real life.
When engaging in bondage, S/M or any other sexual activity, always remember that there is definitely a difference between fantasy and reality, between consensual bondage play and abuse. Here’s a helpful graphic to help you spot the difference:
There are a number of articles available online about the difference between healthy BDSM activity and abuse.
A really good place to start is the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom.
Also check out Psychology Today (where the graphic above is from) and verywell.com.
It is NOT SAFE to tie someone up like this:
If he passes out or loses his balance, that metal around his neck is going to cause serious trouble. Never restrain someone by the neck to something overhead unless his body weight is supported in such a way that if he faints he absolutely won’t be strangled.
So now you know.
He’s 20-something, he’s hot as fuck, and he wants you to email him. And his profile was just created.
Watch out for scams like this.
I was always told that when it comes to electro, keep it BELOW the waist. I see this stuff in gay bondage porn quite a lot. But you don’t want to run an electrical current through someone’s body close to the heart.
There is nothing wrong with fantasizing, of course. If you look closely at these pictures of Lance from Dream Boy Bondage, you might notice that he is clamped with rubber-tipped nip clamps, so there is no actual electrical current involved. In other words, what is pictured is “simulated electro” for fantasy purposes only.
Bottom line: Just because you see something on the Tumbly thing or in porn, doesn’t mean you should do it in real life.
A Metalbond reader recently sent me this via email:
Dear Metal,
I’m 33 years old, gay male. I’m looking to sort of “ease into” local gay BDSM. I’m a bit sexually shy, but I have, as long as I can remember, found myself attracted to BDSM. I’ve finally worked up the nerve to try and get into it beyond looking at websites. I’m looking for advice on how or where I should go in New York City to meet some people. If you have any advice, it would be greatly appreciated.
My response:
A great place to start is the New York Bondage Club. They meet on Sunday nights at Paddles on 26th Street. You can join in the action if you like, or just watch, and it is great place (in my opinion) for beginners.
The education-focused GMSMA (Gay Male S/M Activists) closed down several years back, but some of the alumni from this organization have formed BDSMU, which bills itself as “a new organization focused on building education and camaraderie in the NYC kink community.” They offer monthly events at the Eagle NYC. You can connect with BDSMU via their Facebook page.
Workshops and classes on various topics are also offered at The Leather Man (primarily gay men) and Purple Passion / DV8 (a more “heteroflexible” crowd) on various topics. Check their websites for class offerings, times and dates.
Also, if you haven’t already done so, should put up a profile on Recon. There are lots of local guys out there, and if you get the app you might find (since this in New York Fuckin’ City) that some very hot bondage stud is closer than you can imagine! And he can’t wait to get his hands on a horny newcomer like you!
When you do meet up with someone, be sure to be careful! That means meeting in a public place before going home with the guy, telling someone where you are going, etc. You might find this article from the Anti-Violence Project especially helpful.
Have fun — and send me an email sometime telling me about your adventures!
—Metal
