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The 10 Commandments of Handcuffs

You know, fellas, sometimes I tend to go a little crazy on this blog with entries about how hot and exciting it is to see a man in handcuffs. But let’s get serious for a moment. Listen, no matter how turned on we all get about this stuff, it is always best to remember this: safety comes first. When not used properly, handcuffs can actually cause real physical damage. Especially if you are using inadequate equipment or if you do not know what you are doing.

So — in keeping with the Top 10 List theme — I thought it might be a good idea to share some basic safety information about steel bondage. At the recommendation of my friend David Stein, I asked none other than Harold Cox (who has kept me in handcuffs longer than any other man I have ever played with) for an article called “The Ten Commandments of Steel Bondage.” It was originally written by Harold and published in Dungeonmaster Magazine in 1981. It was subsequently used in a presentation by Harold and david at GMSMA in New York.

Harold has graciously updated the article, and it is presented here:

 

The Ten Commandments of Handcuffs

Revised and updated by Harold Cox 11 October 2009

For those who like realism in bondage, there is no substitute for steel — handcuffs and leg irons. Leather and rope can be cut, or be insecure, and/or dangerously tight. Unfortunately, many tops who use handcuffs are not familiar with their use, which can cause damage to their prisoners. If followed, the rules below will allow players to enjoy their scenes more under safer conditions.

1. DON’T BUY CHEAP HANDCUFFS.

Most cheap cuffs can be easily broken or forced open. A good pair of handcuffs bought in a police supply store or ordered from a reputable specialty internet supplier will cost little more than junk cuffs sold in porn shops. For modern-style U.S.-made cuffs, Smith and Wesson is recommended, with Peerless as second-choice.

2. SHOP FOR THE BEST PRICES.

A good pair bought over the internet from a police supply house will cost little more than junk cuffs sold in porn shops. Smith & Wesson #1900 leg irons can be purchased from the Handcuff Warehouse for $40.99. The identical leg irons are sold by internet toy shops for $79.95. Caveat emptor.

I have had no problems with Warehouse’s service. A pair of S&W leg irons purchased about a year ago had a slight defect. They were replaced immediately upon complaint and the Warehouse paid the cost of return postage. I have reservations about Warehouse’s house brand – Chicago handcuffs – some of which could cause an accident in rough-house play.

3. DON’T BUY CUFFS WITHOUT A DOUBLE-LOCK MECHANISM.

Usually the set-lock is closed by inserting the pointed tip of the handcuff key into a small hole on the top of the lock case of the cuffs. The set-lock is released by turning the key backward in the keyhole. To lock the cuffs Smith & Wesson uses a pin accessed through the side of the lock case, which has the advantage of being accessible from either face of the cuff when locking.

4. ALWAYS DOUBLE-LOCK CUFFS AFTER THEY HAVE BEEN APPLIED.

Cuffs that have not been double-locked can tighten on the wrists if the prisoner struggles or changes position and thereby cause damage to the nerves. Do not buy handcuffs with lever double-locks. These can be accidentally unlocked in a rough scene allowing the cuff to be tightened, or allow the cuffs to be unlocked by the prisoner, facilitating a possible escape.

5. DON’T MAKE CUFFS TOO TIGHT.

The point of steel bondage is that it doesn’t have to be tight to be secure. Don’t tighten cuffs more than necessary. As long as the cuff won’t slip off, it’s tight enough. It should still be easy to move the cuff on your prisoner’s wrist after it has been locked and set. Assuming that no tension is applied to the fastening point, the cuff bows should not press into the skin at any point. A quick safety check can be made by the captor by attempting to slip his little finger between the cuff and the flat surface of the captive’s wrist. If no part of the end of the finger can enter the space, the cuff is too tight.

6. NEVER SUSPEND YOUR PRISONER BY STEEL RESTRAINTS, OR MAKE THE PRISONER LIE ON HIS/HER CUFFED WRISTS.

This can cause severe nerve damage. Suspending the arms above the head with steel cuffs, even with feet or body primly planted on the floor, can cause damage if the tension is great or the position is held for more than a few minutes.

7. DON’T APPLY HANDCUFFS BY SWINGING THEM AGAINST THE WRISTS FROM A DISTANCE.

You can break someone’s wrist or arm that way. The outer edge of the cuff should just touch the wrist as you apply it. A short downward snap will swing the bow up through the locking part of the cuff and then back down and around the wrist. Practice snapping cuffs onto yourself until you get the technique down right. If it hurts you, it is going to hurt the prisoner. Practicing on your wrist is a slow process since you will have to unlock it after every attempt. You can eliminate this problem by holding two fingers together and snapping the cuffs over the fingers.

8. CUFF THE HANDS BEHIND THE BACK.

Unless secured otherwise, cuffs attached in front can be a dangerous weapon. For s/m scenes where high security is less important than minimizing unnecessary damage to the bottom, it is better to fasten handcuffs behind the back so the palms are facing each other, making any tension on the cuffs affect only the less-vulnerable outer sides of the wrists. Palms-out behind the back provide better security but is riskier and less comfortable.

9. DON’T TIGHTEN LEG IRONS.

Leg irons don’t have to be tight to stay on. If they are, the bottom won’t be able to walk, and the pressure could damage the Achilles tendon or bruise the ankles. Leg irons over boots are best if the prisoner will have to move around in them. Smith & Wesson leg irons are recommended because of their oval design. Leg irons should not be tightened more than two clicks when being applied. This will be sufficient to keep the iron from popping open accidentally. Probably the most comfortable way to use leg irons is to have the prisoner wear high-top shoes so that the leg irons can rest on the top of shoe. Pulling down the pants of the prisoner between the leg and the iron will also help to cushion the leg.

10. KEEP EXTRA KEYS HANDY.

Nothing can ruin a scene quicker than trying to remove the bottom’s restraints (or those you have put on yourself) and finding that you can’t locate the keys.

The chastity predicament of Rbbrstorage

Check out the pictures and information that Rbbrstorage recently sent:

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Hi Metal:

I hope things are going well for you. I thought you might appreciate an update on something that you played a significant role in inspiring (and feel free to use this on your site if you want):

I have now spent just over eight months in chastity, enforced by my boyfriend. Nearly all of it has been spent in a CB-6000s with a slightly modified KSD-G3 add-on to prevent pullout, and no extra spacers (which means a tight fit for the smallest of the devices). We tried the Birdlocked early on, but I turned out to have an allergic reaction to the material it’s made from. I’ve gotten surprisingly used to it, and am usually not even aware of it. My cock seems to have adjusted. It doesn’t struggle so much in the middle of the night to get hard, and my boyfriend is convinced that it’s actually shrunk in size (he likes the pic, below, showing the size comparison).

 

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I’d love to claim that it has never come off, but real life interferes with chastity on occasion, and it has been removed for things like doctor’s appointments and the occasional abrasion that needs time to heal. I’m not sure how anyone could do chastity without breaks for things like doctor’s appointments, but am curious if others have managed to make that work. Even with these breaks, I’ve probably spent 90% of my time with the device locked in place over the past 8 1/2 months.

I thought some of your readers who are into chastity might appreciate a few tips on making long-term wear possible. Here’s what I’ve learned from my experience:

A balance of lubrication and cleanliness is important. Some sites say to keep everything dry, but that led to abrasions whenever my cock would try to grow, which meant having to remove the device to let it heal. I clean inside with soap on a Q-tip while in the shower every morning, and then apply vegetable oil with a Q-tip so that it can move comfortably without chafing. So far, that has worked great and hasn’t caused me any problems.

The right underwear is key. The first few weeks were painful because I was wearing boxers. I’ve learned that I have to wear something like a jockstrap that completely covers my balls inside the pouch to avoid pinching and chafing.

Shaving around the ring helps a lot, since otherwise the hairs can catch in the device and cause little painful moments.

Getting the ring size right makes a huge difference, since a ring that is just a size too small can cause a lot of pain in the middle of the night when the cock is trying to expand. If it hurts enough to wake you up at 4 a.m., the ring is probably too small.

How does it feel? Well, I have to admit it’s a turn-on. I like the feeling of being that controlled, and I guess humiliated, though it’s something that stays between the two of us (well, except for when he walked me around the last Anvil party in a sleepsack with legs, with the cb-6000s sticking out). My BF is actually very generous with the orgasms, about twice a week. He seems to enjoy edging me. And, there are studies that show a higher risk of prostate cancer for men who don’t come quite regularly, so … he’s very nice to me about that. But, of course, the cage comes off right before he edges me, and goes on right after. I have to be in bondage to come, and I have to have his cum inside me first. So, I guess I have to earn it. Just picture me in my leather sleepsack, hooded and gagged, sometimes with a couple tens patches on my ass, maybe a plug in there, with a Fun brand vibrating masturbator over my cock – an awesome machine – being edged for up to an hour before coming. Lots of fun.

Yes, the bondage/cum inside me rules make it a lot hotter for me. I found early on in the process that if we went many days without feeling sexual, the chastity device lost any feeling of sexual turn-on for me, and just become this hunk of plastic that was getting in the way and that I would start to resent. But we quickly got past that, and the device is an integral part of our sex life. I think my BF really likes that I don’t even get to see my cock get hard when he lets me cum. I can just imagine it through the hood. And I have to admit that I really like that, too.

Anyway, thanks for inspiring my journey into chastity a few years back, and keep it up with the great site.

— Rbbrstorage

 

Metal would like to thank Rbbrstorage and his boyfriend for sharing the information above and the pictures.

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I’m product testing the chain and padlock from Alpha Designs

Metalbond chain collarI recently wore this chain and padlock from Alpha Designs for about 10 days, and I even mailed myself the keys over Labor Day weekend. I put the keys in the mail on Saturday afternoon, and mail pickup for the mailbox I used was not until the following Tuesday. It felt great, and I enjoyed the look.

Before I left for Fire Island last Friday, I locked it on again, leaving the keys at home in my apartment in Manhattan. The picture above was taken on the beach on Sunday afternoon. It’s really a nice chain. I’m staying out here until Thursday, so it will be another whole week of chain and lock for me.

Bob, the guy from Alpha Designs who polishes up these chains and locks and sells them through 665 Leather, emailed me the following message when I told him what I was up to:

“You really are giving the collar a good test run,” Bob said. “I’m sure that by now you are aware of just how powerful that simple chain and lock is, constantly present, you feel it when you wake every morning, and it’s the last thing you feel at night. I don’t think that it is possible to ever get completely used to being chained by the neck, I just can’t completely get used to the weight or movement of the collar.”

“The real power of it, is when another man uses it to control you during sex, with a leash attached or better yet, just held in his fist,” Bob says. “The submission it demands is overwhelming and absolute.”

Hey Bob, I completely understand. That’s very well said.  For me, just so all you guys know, my interest in wearing this is not that I consider myself a slave or that I want to be a slave or I want to be owned by somebody.  I just like things that lock.

 

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a classic image

This is one of my favorite pictures of all time. And it seems to be posted all over the place online. There are even some guys who have posted it in their profiles claiming it as their own.

GIJoeSkin

But listen, there is only ONE MAN who can claim this picture as his own — and that man is GIJoeSkin. If you see anyone other than GIJoeSkin posting this picture in his profile and claiming it as his own, kick them in the balls.