For some reason, whenever I have seen one of these demonstrations of waterboarding on TV, it seems like the “victim” is never struggling enough.
If it were me, I would be thrashing all over the place.
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Bruce died last year while playing solo with a plastic bag
By Brian
Last year in January, Bruce, a dear friend (pictured above), died because he was playing solo, alone in his bed with a plastic bag on his head and a vial of poppers in his hand.
I only knew Bruce a couple of years, but we hit it of instantly, because he knew EXACTLY what I was thinking when we played, and I could somehow read him too. He’d have me tied down and he would somehow know just when to squeeze that nipple, tighten that restraint, or add something new to the scene to keep the excitement and adrenaline in full swing.
One night after everyone had gone to sleep, I was lying next to him in his bedroom, and he pulled out the bag and poppers and I watched as he suffocated himself to orgasm.
I remember saying, “You did that because I was here, right? You never do that when you are alone?” He told me, reassured me, that no he didn’t do it when he was alone. But there was a pile of plastic bags in the corner there always was, I sort of knew that maybe he did play like that when he was alone.
When I found out that he had died, and how he died, it made me sick. His closest friends, the people he lived with, were constantly warning him — don’t do that shit alone. Oh fuck, I wish he would have just listened.
I think what happens is it starts out pretty benign, you do a little, here and there, and before you know it, it becomes routine. And then one day, the routine ends.
If you must do breath play, don’t do it alone. Not once, not ever, and if you’ve done it alone before, never do it again. No one orgasm is worth giving up a lifetime of orgasms.
I loved Bruce, and I still miss Bruce to this day, damn it. And I’m still angry as hell at him for what he did.
For godsake, don’t do breath play alone.
Metalbond would like to thank Brian for posting the above to the comments section a few days ago. It is re-posted here as a main listing, with the blessing of Bruce’s surviving partner, Duane, who sent the following note:
“Time after time I told him not to do this alone! But like Bruce he came to me doing this, and left me this way. I had told him over and over my biggest fear was to find him dead — at least it was in his bedroom and not in the playroom! Try to explain that to all the people that were here that day! This just needs to STOP! Thank you!”
Thanks, Duane, for sharing. Hopefully this information will help save a life or two.
From today’s New York Times
Designer, 26, Found Dead in Apartment in Manhattan
Alejandro Bulaevsky was an accomplished lighting designer whose paths around the nation and world were well chronicled. On Tuesday, the New York police spent the day trying to learn how Mr. Bulaevsky, 26, ended up dead on the floor of his Lower Manhattan apartment — his body wrapped in a latex suit, his hands cuffed behind his back, his face covered by a gas mask.
“It’s a mystery, but they’ll figure it out in the end,” one investigator said.
Paul Browne, the Police Department’s chief spokesman said, “One aspect of the investigation would be to determine whether his death was related in any way to a fetish involving latex.”
To read the complete article, click here.
Do not play Russian roulette
Hey guys I have to get serious for a moment. Really, this is important.
I have just learned that not one but TWO men have DIED within the past week alone, as the result of solo breath play. I don’t know the specific details of either of these incidents, but someone I know and trust has told me about them.
Apparently both of these guys were somehow cutting off their air while also playing with restraints. One of them might have been using recreational drugs at the same time, as well.
As I mentioned, I don’t know the details, just the big picture.
The fact is, breath control play is REALLY DANGEROUS — even with at least two people in the room. It is NEVER a good idea to do this kind of play on your own. People die this way all the time, probably many more than ever get reported in the news or within bdsm circles. Even famous celebrities have died this way.
Listen, I don’t care how powerful your ejaculation might be — it’s simply NOT WORTH THE RISK to yourself and your loved ones. Find another way to get off. Rent porn movies instead, or take up fisting, or hire go-go boys. Just don’t suffocate yourself to cum. It’s not worth gambling your very life over. Can you imagine the HORROR your partner, your landlady, your neighbor or even your MOTHER will feel when they come into your room to find your lifeless body, wearing a gas mask or a hose around your neck and an open bottle of poppers in your hand? Don’t let that happen!
Seriously. And if you absolutely CANNOT GET OFF without strangling yourself, by all means — please — get somebody to be there with you. If you don’t have a friend you can tell about your kink, make one.
Just don’t do solo breath play, ever.
Never, ever.
Metalbond answers reader mail
dear sir,
I really enjoy your blog and I hope to even visit you one day. I am a 25 year old bondage fanatic. Currently I live and work in los angeles and do not have the time or the means to travel to san francisco to meet the great masters that are located there. Whenever I search for bondage masters in los angeles, I hit a dead end. If sir would be so kind as to write a post to recommend some trustworthy, safe, discrete Masters who are located in the Los angeles or other southern california areas (such as palm springs, san diego, etc), I would be much obliged.
Interests:
Bondage (especially metal)
Tickle torture
Cum control
Disciple
Turn offs:
Anal or urethal penetration
Blood/scat
Breath control
Thank you sir,
Boy Richard
Hey there Boy Richard,
Thanks very much for the note. I am sorry to hear that you have not connected with any masters in LA, but I do know for a fact that there are many sane, responsible tops in Southern California. You just haven’t found them yet.
One thing you might want to do is check out a local event, such as the Southern California Bondage Club. Here is their website:
In my view, a bondage club is a great way to explore bondage. If you go there, you will most likely have the chance to watch a variety of scenes, and you might even join in the play if you feel comfortable. Remember you can always stop the action at any time. The universal safe word at a play party is “safeword.”
If you haven’t already done so, you might also want to put up a profile on a BDSM-themed social networking site, such as Recon, and look for some men you find interesting there. One thing to keep in mind, is to look for men with pictures posted of themselves and their work/gear/playspace, and also make sure they have been online for some time and have plenty of friends listed. You might even politely chat up some of their friends to “check references.” If you do make an arrangement to meet up with someone, it’s a good idea to meet first in a public location like a bar or a coffee shop. And if you can’t make it to the date, by all means be sure to call/email right away to cancel.
Whenever you visit someone for a bondage scene, be sure to be clear about your limits and make sure the other guy agrees.
Also, even more importantly, don’t ever forget to tell a trusted friend where you are going, and be sure the man you are visiting knows you are doing this. This is very important to ensure your safety. If you don’t have a friend you can tell, make one.
I hope this helps.
Have fun … and best wishes to you,
Metal
James Hatton passes away
James Hatton — who was known to many as Bodisama — died last week.
I never had the privilege of meeting or playing with him, but those who did spoke highly of him.
Metalbond offers his sincere condolences to James’ partner of more than 14 years, Matt, a person we should all keep in our thoughts.
More information is available by clicking here.
Atlanta has the hottest guys
I just got back from a business trip to Atlanta. As is my custom when I travel for work, I mixed in a little fun as well. I met up with an online bondage buddy — a guy I have been chatting with for years but hadn’t ever met. Turns out we hit it off quite well. I “hog chained” him in his hiatt darbies-style four-way irons for a few hours, and then re-shackled him with his hands in front for some overnight bondage. The next day he spread-eagled me in leather restraints.
Then last night, we headed over to the Atlanta Eagle, where the Hotlanta Rubber Group was having a bar night. There were lots and lots of hot guys there, many in full rubber — including the guys shown above. I spotted a few with chains padlocked around their necks, including pup Nitro. Daddy Alan, Mr. Atlanta Eagle 2009 and 2nd Runner Up International Mr. Leather 2009, was there as well. There was also a guy getting into a rubber hood. I had a really great time with my new bondage buddy and also at the bar.
Thanks for keeping it hot, Hotlanta rubber and bondage guys!
(Oh, and there is an interesting side note to my visit to Atlanta: Furries were holding their “Furry Weekend” at the Hilton, where I was staying! So every time I got on the elevator or walked through the lobby … there were furries everywhere! It was great fun! If you don’t know who Furries are, click here.)
Metalbond answers reader mail
Just been catching up with your site just now … really horny! And I quite agree with you regarding Serious Male Bondage! Cheers,
—London
Yeah, I agree, they sure know how to make the restraint scenarios serious at Serious Male Bondage!
—Metal
Can’t wait to hear how you get on with the Punisher. I normally am locked in a cb6000 and need it when i get into your site as it is so HOT.
—Via the Internet
Well I am sorry to say I did not fare well in the Punisher. But a friend of mine loves the device. I do much better with other chastity devices.
—Metal
Your site never fails to get me rock hard, from the pics to the stories it is always the hottest place on the web, my Irish 8s are waiting for your initiation.
—New York City
Someday, buddy, I’ll lock you in those Irish 8’s — but no complaining if your shoulders start to ache after, say, 8 hours in them!
—Metal
Your web site is superb. I can only imagine the amount of content, experience, judgment and effort that goes into keeping it going for so long — all with such high quality.
—Arlington, Virginia
Thanks, Arlington, I try!
—Metal
i’ve always loved your site, Sir. would love to be bound and used by you, Sir. i know my profile says not available, but i can play on the side while i serve this one dom. if i serve others, i’ll probably be locked in chastity while i do. i’m into hard bondage (steel, rubber, leather, anything), humiliation, cbt, ass toys, dog training, ws, just about everything, really…
—New York, NY
Glad to hear you are often locked in chastity, the way it should be for a sub like you!
—Metal
Fucking hot post on your site about the guy wanting to be locked up — “take my cock out of the equation and turn me into a horny, hungry faggot fuckhole and cocksucker” — Damn. Got me hard and i’m not allowed to do anything about it either!
—Chicago
I have not heard from any of the long-distance chastity guys in a while. But I would very much love to have a fit guy locked in a device with a numbered lock, someone willing to be shown off with regular pictures here on the blog.
—Metal
I have to tell you I get hard when you write about how your cage is solid, one-piece construction and totally escape-proof since you can’t disassemble it. I just imagine a very massive MasterLock on the outside with one person holding the key keeping me locked in nice and tight. And maybe he’d tease me with the key from behind mirrored sunglasses.
— Washington, DC
I’m glad you like escape-proof lockup, Mister!
—Metal
I’m fascinated about a chain on the neck and no way to take it off. I had such an experience some years ago, the chain was on my neck for more than 12 months. And after some weeks it feels as a normal part of my body. Must be there. In the last months I play a little in the City Opera with naked torso, so there is no chance for such an experience. But I think my neck should be chained again after my summer holidays. (Going by airplane, so thats not so good to go to the security with a lot of metal).
—Germany
Yeah, it’s too bad about airport security these days. It sort of puts a crimp into long term chain/padlock wearing.
—Metal
I meant to tell you that I am currently locked in the CURVE. As i do not have a keyholder at present I send the key to myself 2nd class in mail and make sure that I deposit the envelope with key after last post collection. However, would like to have a real keyholder again and not have a known release date. Best,
—Chastrubpig
That’s the best kind of chastity scenario — where the locked guy has no control over when (or if) he will be released.
—Metal
I just saw this blog with TENTACLE torture. I used to fantasize about being captured by an octopus, as it had twice the limbs I had and could control me and still maneuver, whereas I was totally lost to it’s unfeeling control as it dragged me deeper. I also used to fantasize about a boa constrictor working its way into my jockstrap and grabbing hold of my junk, then going to work on me, and me having no way to loosen its coils as it slowly but irreversibly squeezed everything in my jockstrap.
—Via the Internet
Dude! I had the same fantasy of the boa constrictor! Hey, you will definitely want to check out the new story by Cicero. He graciously dedicated this story to me.
—Metal
I agree with you: Mr. Meloni is very talented and HOT! Some nudity doesn’t hurt an actor’s career these days.
—Vancouver, British Columbia
I forgot to mention on this blog that this past winter, the actor Christopher Meloni was on my very block in Manhattan filming an episode of Law and Order — and saw him twice on two different days. He was shorter in real life than I expected, but 10 times as hot.
—Metal
There is something so basic about being chained up … like manacles with a long chain, fastened to some point. I like metal helmets too, but they can be quite much after while, as they can slowly dig into the flesh … much like heavy metal collars (which are very nice) … I still like being strapped down in a box … or “trapped” in something like a cravat … or other type of rigid metal fetter … I would like to inspire you …
—Washington state
Wow, man, you are speaking my language!
—Metal
I just read Master Qualification. Brave guy to subject himself to whatever is coming! I really must try and write a new story incorporating all my favourite gear and humiliations! Trouble is, I tend to try and keep it as realistic as possible rather than unrealistic even though I enjoy reading such tales.
—London
I agree, I like stories that are based in reality … but someone definitely has to get restrained. Please definitely send me your stories!
—Metal
I would love to spend the rest of my life chastised, bound and caged in your cage!
—Tel Aviv, Israel
And I would love to do it to you … if only I could! But someday you will want out for real, and the neighbors will call the cops when they hear you screaming. And then we’ll both be on CNN … and I will end up going to prison!
—Metal
You know, some of those stories on that studsinstone site are actually pretty hot!
—Connecticut
I agree! I’ll continue to share more story sites when I find them.
—Metal
I was intrigued with your web site so I took a look. And then I read the line: “That means once you hear the ‘click’ of the padlock, you’re done for” and my cock jumped. I think I’m going to like it here.
—Boston
Hey guy, I am glad you like to hear the click of the padlock — that’s what it’s all about here — getting you restrained so you can’t escape! Fuck yeah!
—Metal
