One of my favorite quips from Dan Savage:
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Video: Kink talk with Dan Savage and Pup Amp
Are you in a relationship with someone who isn’t kinky? Or maybe your partner has different kinks that you have? In this video, sex and relationship advice columnist Dan Savage speaks with Pup Amp of Watts the Safeword about “kink discordant” relationships. Check it out:
Lots more videos like this at Watts the Safeword
Also available as a YouTube channel
Dan Savage podcast available here
Also look for Dan’s column at The Stranger
Savage Love column
This week I was included in a response from a kink-curious novice in Dan Savage’s advice column at The Stranger, Savage Love (along with Amp and Ruff).
The column is here.
Dan ties up Terry and shaves his mustache
Metalbond rants: The Rentboy.com bust is an outrage
I’m completely infuriated, appalled and disgusted about the Rentboy arrests and the site being shut down.
First of all, what the fuck is the Homeland Security Department doing, going after gay male escorts? Don’t they have more important things to do, like going after the fucking terrorists!!??
This bust had nothing to do with terrorism, money laundering, sex trafficking or illegal exploitation of minors — all of which should be stopped, unquestionably. Rentboy was as a safe, reliable way for CONSENTING ADULT MEN to connect with each other. They had been operating openly for almost two decades.
Personally, I am going to miss the site very much. From time to time, I have hired guys off Rentboy. Why? Because the escorts who advertised on Rentboy paid a subscription fee and were reviewed by their clients, I found it was a FAR SAFER way to find what I needed than relying on Craig’s List or a phone line or somebody off the street. (And, truth be told, sometimes I just enjoyed browsing the guys on Rentboy and fantasizing, beating off looking at their pictures and reading their profiles!)
A lot has been written already about this stupid, anti-gay attack. If you have not already done so, you might want to read various articles and blog postings and view videos posted by Matt Baume, Dirk Caber, JamesMichael Nichols and Matthew Ebert. There are many others. Even The New York Times has editorialized against the raid.
Perhaps the most compelling account yet is from our own Rob Yaeger. You might recognize him from some of his bondage-themed porn shoots that have been featured here on Metalbond. The video below featuring Mr. Yaeger is a must-see:
https://youtu.be/ZzmzBn5nKQw
UPDATE: YouTube deleted the video, but you can watch it by clicking here.
Rob, thank you for telling your story!
Dan Savage is a very happy man …
… and you would be too if your husband looked like this in rubber gear:
Yes, that’s Dan’s husband, Terry Miller, modeling the new Double Stripe Ass-Open Shorts, available from Mr S. Also pictured is Dirk Caber. If you click through to the online store, you can see a video of Dirk Caber modeling this stuff.
I wish Dan Savage had been around when I was growing up
He just gave a really good, comprehensive interview to Playboy magazine, in which he discusses a wide range of issues, including gay rights, his It Gets Better project, same sex marriage — and yes, even BDSM.
To read this very worthwhile Q&A with Dan Savage, click here.
This just in! Pictures from last Friday night’s edition of DICKSLAP at the Eagle in Seattle
I am told that most of the irons are by Louie Raffloer at Black Dog Forge. The shackles are Fetters. The iron straps bolting the captive to the wall, and the heavy irons on the prisoner on the bar, are Louie’s.
Link to Louie here.
Seattle Eagle here.
DICKSLAP has a Facebook page here.
Thanks, Dan, for the pictures!






