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The second ‘Leather Life’ book by Peter Fiske

Peter Fiske has published a second book, titled “My Leather Life: Later Years,” available as a paperback purchase via Amazon. The description reads:

“At the center of leather life for 50 years, Peter Fiske whips up leather history in this delightful second volume of his memoirs, covering the years since the AIDS crisis emerged in the 1980s. He takes us through his relationship with the love of his life, Coulter Thomas, the founding of The 15 Association, and the struggle for trans acceptance. A must read for leatherfolk.”

My Leather Life: Later Years book by Peter Fiske


Click for My Leather Life: Later Years

The first book by Peter is My Leather Life: Early Years

Remembering Gil Kessler

Gil Kessler GMSMAGil Kessler, a longtime educator and a pillar of the leather community, passed away on June 5, 2022, at age 85. Gil was a kind-hearted man and a dear friend. He touched countless lives over the years.

Gil was born June 27, 1936. He was a longtime resident of the West Village of Manhattan, and he had a home in Port Jervis, N.Y. He also had lived in Brooklyn, N.Y. He worked as a math teacher in the New York City public schools, and in his retirement he co-authored a mathematics textbook. He was an avid reader of books, and he enjoyed movies, TV, theater, and the performing arts, all of which he could discuss at length and with great enthusiasm. For many years he was active in Times Squares, an LGBTQ+ square dancing club in New York City.

Gil is survived by a husband, Damani, as well as biological family members, many former students, and countless friends. He was predeceased by two life partners, Rick DiOrio, who died of AIDS in 1990, and Augie Kalin, who died of a major stroke in 2011.

As those of us who had the pleasure of knowing Gil will attest, he was an absolute joy to be with. He was friendly, charming, caring, and endearing. He was a gentle soul. He played the piano. He was known to smoke a little pot once in a while. He was also highly organized and efficient. He carried with him always a BIC 4-Color Retractable Ballpoint Pen and a small miniature notepad, which he would use to make notes to himself.

Gil, along with many others, was among the key officers and directors who served the gay male leather community via GMSMA (Gay Male S/M Activists), a trailblazing organization that disbanded in 2009. Gil was also a member of the Delta Brotherhood, the Eulenspiegel Society, and an honorary board member of the Leather Archives & Museum in Chicago. He served as a judge at IML (the International Mr. Leather contest) one year in Chicago.

It was through his work with GMSMA that Gil had the greatest impact. Among the organization’s many educational endeavors were SIGs (Special Interest Groups) designed for novices to learn about s/m play in a safe and supportive environment. The SIGs taught participants all about safety, technique, and the psychological aspects of engaging in such activities as flogging, whipping, rope bondage, chains, mummification, and many other activities — all without any hint of shame or embarrassment whatsoever.

As Gil himself reported for NewsLink, the GMSMA publication, his Novices group for the 1997-98 season had 22 participants with everyone taking part as both top and bottom. The 13-session course went from November to June, meeting every other Sunday afternoon, with four-hour sessions workshopping all the basic topics, plus others such as strapping, verbal abuse, body and head harnesses, and temperature torture. By the third session, Gil said, the group was like a family, and by the last session, no one wanted it to end.

Gil led dozens of these SIGs over the years for hundreds upon hundreds of participants. It’s impossible to overstate the impact of Gil’s work over the years.


While these words are heartfelt and sincere, they are incomplete and do not do justice to Gil’s memory. I am saddened that there has not been a celebration of life for Gil, or even an online memorial where people can post memories. If someone who is reading this is interested in organizing a gathering, perhaps something at the Center at some point, I do hope that they will step forward.

The man who put the S in Mr S

This is great timing for pride month! The GLBT Historical Society Museum in San Francisco is presenting an exhibition on the life and legacy of Alan Selby, the founder of Mr S. “The Mayor Of Folsom Street: The Life And Legacy Of Alan Selby,” on display through the end of September, recounts Selby’s story, putting it into context as part of the story of San Francisco’s SoMa neighborhood and the overall leather/BDSM culture.

Race Bannon has published an article about Alan Selby for the Bay Area Reporter (click the image directly below to read):

articles by Race Bannon


Many more leather/kink articles by Race Bannon here

More information on the GLBT Historical Society Museum’s exhibit here

For Mr S click here

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I thought you would live forever, Andrew

Andrew Harwin died today.

Andrew Harwin RIP


Andrew was a wise and spiritual man who was generous with his time and attention. He had many friends.

He was one of the organizers of the popular Folsom Street East block party and fund-raiser here in NYC. He was a member of Inferno and of Delta.

I got to know Andrew many years back when we served together on the board of GMSMA (Gay Male S/M Activists). I knew him as hard-working, kind, friendly and thoughtful.

Andrew was a longtime survivor of the HIV/AIDS epidemic. He bravely battled so many health crises over the years that I thought he would outlive us all.

He is going to be missed.

End of year message

Hey fellow prisoners,

As 2018 comes to a close and 2019 commences, I want to wish everyone a very happy new year! I know there have been many ups and downs this past year.

trans rights are human rightsChief among the downs has been the administration’s various attacks on the LGBTQ community, and especially attacks on the trans community. Let it be known to all, that the faggot cocksucker homo pervert who runs this this website welcomes ALL visitors, regardless of race, religion (or lack thereof), sexual orientation — or gender identity and expression. I can’t believe in 2018 it is even necessary to say this, but, FOR THE RECORD: I support supports the rights of those who identify as gay, straight, bisexual, lesbian AND transgender!

belly chain banned by tumblrAnother unfortunate development has been the new policy over at Tumblr, in which adult images are now being banned and pages disappearing altogether. That’s a real shame in my view, especially for those who are into more unusual or exotic fetishes. (If you are like me, you probably have discovered some fetishes you hadn’t even known were fetishes but now that you know about them, you think they are totally hot!) I have a Metalbond page over on Tumblr, and when the new policy was announced I went ahead and deleted all the dick pictures I had ever posted or re-blogged. Yet many of my completely non-explicit pictures were tagged as “sensitive content,” while on the app I am still seeing tons of dicks, so I am not even really sure what is happening.

Nevertheless, the new Tumblr policy does not affect this site — the official Metalbond site, the site you are on now — in any way, as I pay out of pocket for private web hosting and development and have done so since 2012. From time to time I receive contributions (via the PayPal link in the sidebar to the right), and I do wish to thank those who have kicked in a few bucks. Your support is greatly appreciated and goes to good use.

So you know, the Metalbond site will continue stronger than ever in the new year, with lots more content on the way including many new stories. Among the new fiction is a band new story series — a novel really — that is going to be very exciting, especially for sci-fi fans who are also interested in athletic gear and chastity! Watch for Chapter 1 of “Lucky Cup” to appear in the Prison Library very soon!

Meanwhile, I hope everyone is getting ready for the ball drop! If you are home alone tonight watching the festivities on TV as I am, be sure to lock yourself in something as the clock strikes twelve!

locking ankle cuffs

I love it when guys on Tumblr write hot captions like this

Anyone can re-blog a picture on Tumblr but it takes a special gift to “add value” by writing a hot story line, like Do Not Open Til Christmas has done here:

long term bondage


Side note: Personally, I am going to miss Tumblr when it’s gone. It’s apparently just a matter of time before the religious right succeeds in forcing the Republicans in Congress to shut down so much of what we freely see and enjoy — according to this article by Kristofer Weston.