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Sports and S/M

I just dug this one out of my GMSMA newsletter archives. The article below is from the publication NewsLink, of which I was editor for several years. That’s ME pictured on the left hand side in the picture below. I was the tied-up football player model for the demonstration conducted by Greg. What follows is a “program report” from an event that GMSMA, a NYC-based educational organization, offered on sports-themed S/M scenes:

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Having Fun With Jocks and S/M

By Richard

Blowing a referee’s whistle, GMSMA kicked off its second fall program, “Sports SM,” on September 27, 2000. A packed crowd of people wearing wrestling gear, referee’s uniforms, and football gear were eager to hear about the four panelists’ experiences with sport fetishes and SM.

Whether or not you are athletically inclined, the jockstrap remains the ubiquitous accessory of kink, says Peter B. Did you know that the jock strap’s history spans over 120 years? From its humble beginnings as the “jockey strap” for Boston bicyclists, it was given to soldiers around the turn of the century to reduce “scrotal fatigue.” Today, the jock strap has evolved into a variety of designs, along with its pal, the groin cup. On display were jocks for hockey and boxing, with groin cups for cricket (from Australia), for hockey (from Sweden). For more information, visit the quintessential jockstrap web site at https://www.allkink.com.

 

Hockey

 

“Hockey is my mistress and domination,” says Mr. Z. “It’s a sadistic mistress because hockey gets you injured.” Mr. Z spoke about the parallels between SM and hockey.   Take the “cup check,” for instance — taking the butt end of his hockey stick, a player will come up behind a fellow player and put the stick between the other player’s legs and tap his cup. Or, remember the film Youngblood (1986), when hockey teammates pinned Rob Lowe to a table and shaved his groin?

He suggested the following scenes for “hockey SM”: 1) putting clothespins on your bottom’s butt, then snapshooting them off with the hockey stick; 2) shooting street hockey balls at the bottom; or 3) the bottom, wearing hockey gloves, tries to get at the hockey puck while you play keep away.

 

Football Gear Fetishes

 

Dressed in football gear, Greg is drawn to the mouthpiece and the neck roll. He gets a turn-on dressing up another guy in football gear, then tying him up. He gave us a demonstration of how to properly don football gear, using Fred as a model:

1) Start with a guy with a cup

2) Put on the official NFL socks

3) Put on hip pads

4) Don the girdle

5) Pull up the football pants

6) Put on the football shoes

7) Put on the shirt

8) Put on triceps pads and elbow guards

9) Put on rib pads (for quarterbacks)

10) Put on shoulder pads

11) Tape things down

12) Don the football jersey

13) Lace up the football shorts/pants

 

Boxing

 

A boxing scene can be a good mindfuck, says Guy. He presented a dramatic reading of his experiences with a bottom in DC who had face punching fantasies. Before meeting him, Guy instructed his bottom to take aspirin and drink lots of water, “to bleed more satisfyingly when [he] busted him up with [his] fists.” The most important part of the scene is the insertion of the mouthpiece-“it pushes out the lips, makes you looked stupid, really turns you into a human punching bag.”

 

You get the picture. Guy says that, “in ‘edgeplay’ stuff like this, you learn profound things about yourself, and about other people-about the power of the unconscious.”

 

Getting into SM Sports Scenes

 

Adding sports fetishes to your SM repertoire shouldn’t break your budget. Almost all the items shown this evening can be found at your local sporting goods stores. A hockey stick runs about ten to forty dollars, while it costs $300 for a new football uniform. However, because football helmets must be sized to the wearer, sporting goods stores will not let you buy a football helmet for someone else who is not there to try it on.

 

Finally, as with all SM scenes, it is very important to have a discussion with your fellow player before getting into the scene. Gauging the player’s experience and knowledge is especially important where a sports scene involves injury (such as taking punches in the gut or face). For instance, people who have fantasies about being seriously injured may only have a limited understanding of the reality of having those injuries.

 

 

For more information about GMSMA NewsLink, click for this posting

Also check out this posting about the final meeting of GMSMA, which was in 2009.

 

Metalbond pays a visit to Alcatraz

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When I was in San Francisco back in September 2009, I visited Alcatraz with a friend, who photographed me (above). I really got a charge out of stepping into the very small cells that prisoners were confined in.  I learned a lot listening to the audio tour, narrated by former guards and inmates. They had a great gift shop (I bought $70 worth of souvenirs). I also enjoyed the view of San Francisco from the island itself. But my favorite part of the tour was the small block of about six isolation cells — where unruly prisoners were locked in for up to 19 days nonstop as punishment. When a park ranger offered to lock anyone who wanted to in for 30 seconds, I of course volunteered immediately. He slammed the door with a deafening bang, and when he did so it was absolutely 100 percent dark. I could definitely get into this. He said the men locked in here did not get beds, only blankets if they were lucky. Yep, that works for me! In fact, if it weren’t for the other tourists in there giggling I probably would have shot a load right in my jeans.

Below are more pictures from our visit:

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Product review: Combination Lock Collar

I’m “product testing” this Combination Lock Collar.

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A bondage buddy helped me get this collar locked around my neck — in such a way that I genuinely do not know the combination, and therefore I cannot take it off. I have had it on for 8 days now. Collars hold special symbolism for many as part of a Master/slave dynamic, and that is fucking awesome if you ask me. But for me, my wearing of this collar does not mean that. I am simply wearing and testing the collar as a piece of bondage gear, nothing more.

My thoughts on this item are below.

Appearance and Feel

I think it looks nice, and it is certainly very shiny and it is well made. It’s stainless steel, and it holds up just fine in the shower. The metal is smooth and shiny. But I am not sure about the way this fits. I just don’t think this looks very nice on me. It comes in two sizes: small/medium, at 17 inches interior circumference, and medium/large, at 19 inches interior circumference. I am wearing the larger one. But I think it might be a little too big. At least it seems so, when I look at it in the mirror. In terms of the way this feels, it is great. I love tugging on it, and it sounds really cool as well.

 

Comfort

Collar_4As I mentioned, I have been wearing this for more than a week now. Sometimes I forget it is there. But, for the most part, it’s not the most comfortable collar to wear. In fact, if I did have the combination I would have taken the collar off way before now. It only weighs about a pound, but sometimes it feels like a ton. Sometimes I think I am getting a headache or a backache. Other times I think I am imagining things. During some of the exercises I do at the gym, when I am on my back, the collar puts a little too much pressure on my Adam’s apple. To make it more comfortable for hanging around at home, I have been pulling the hood of a hoodie through between my neck and collar, so that the collar wears outside the hoodie. That seems a bit more comfy at times. Sleeping while locked in the collar is no trouble at all.

 

Reaction from others

Nobody on the street can see it under all my winter clothes. I showed the collar to two different local friends, who are both into kink, and both said they think it is pretty cool. I have not shown this particular collar to any non-kink friends, but many of them have seen me in this chain and padlock collar. But this collar is a bit different. It definitely looks more conspicuous. I have been a bit self-conscious wearing at the gym and have kept it tucked in under my T-shirt as much as possible there. I have even been wearing a T-shirt and a towel around my neck on my way between locker and shower at the gym. Online chat buddies have had various reactions. When I got my hair cut this week, I had the collar tucked inside my T-shirt. This conceals it in the front, but in the back it sticks out. So at the end of the haircut when the barber is going to clean up the back of my neck, he said, “This is in my way.” His tone sounded a bit rude. “I can’t take it off,” I replied. Then, “What is it?” he asked. “A collar,” I replied. Then he proceeded to bang his electric clippers on the collar as he trimmed the back of my neck. I was not mad or embarrassed — this was the famous Astor Place in NYC, after all, where it’s more unusual for customers to not have metal body adornment of some sort. Anyway, if the barber (Ledo) had not been a dick about the whole matter, I would have gladly shown it to him and told him all about it and given him a Metalbond card and we could have even taken pictures. Maybe next time.

 

Security

It’s a four-digit combination lock. Normally, a lock like that would be hard to get out of, seeing that there are 10,000 possible combinations. But on closer inspection on the lock, I discovered that the digits run from 1 to 6, not 0 to 9, meaning that there are only a grand total of 1,296 combinations. So, it would be possible, I suppose, for me to run through all the combinations in an attempt to get the collar off that way. Start at 1111, tug on it. Then 1112, then try. Turn it to 1113, then 1114, then 1115, etc. I have not attempted to do this. I guess I have not gotten that desperate — at least not yet anyway. One guy I was chatting with online said it might be possible for me to “feel” my way out of the collar by manipulating the digits, but I have not tried doing that because that might be cheating. Again, I’m not that desperate — as of now.