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David Stein: Writer, editor, activist and publisher

I learned with great sadness last night that David Stein, also known as slave david stein, has died. I do not know any of the details.

 

David was an author and publisher of BDSM-themed books, both fiction and nonfiction. His most popular works included “Carried Away: An SM Romance,” an erotic novel; and “Ask the Man Who Owns Him: The Real Lives of Gay Masters and Slaves,” a non-fiction book in which a number of real-life Master/slave couples share their stories. David self-published his books — along with many more by other authors — via his publishing company, Perfectbound Press. His fiction and non-fiction writing was also published in Drummer, DungeonMaster, Mach and many other gay underground magazines back in the day.

David was one of the founders of GMSMA (Gay Male S/M Activists), which was a New York City-based organization of gay men dedicated to “safe, sane, consensual s/m.” As an officer of GMSMA and longtime volunteer and editor of NewsLink, the organization’s newsletter, David helped educate countless others on safety and technique. He wrote a column on safety for Bound & Gagged magazine, called “Bond+Aid.” Over the years he was a volunteer, speaker and presenter at many leather and SM events, including numerous International MAsT (Masters and Slaves Together) weekends, the Leather Leadership Conference, the Master/slave Conference, South Plains Leatherfest, and Leather Pride Night.

He was also an active on many online discussion groups over the years, including FetLife.

His most recent project was “Our Lives, Our History: Consensual Master/slave Relationships From Ancient Times to the 21st Century,” a non-fiction anthology edited by Peter Tupper, which he published under Perfectbound Press. His books are also available on Amazon.

According to his profile on FetLife, David was in service to Sir Brian. He is also survived by many former Masters and fellow slaves, as well as countless friends. He will be greatly missed.

TBT: Chastity striptrase at Folsom Street East

I took these pictures of my dear friend Ray (of blessed memory) at the Folsom Street East block party here in NYC back in 2015. Ray sure knew how to rock a chain collar and fetish wear — and he showed off his metal chastity cage underneath! Check it out:

 

Folsom Street East recently held its 20th event, and I am proud to have been involved in helping launch it along with many others from GMSMA. The event has raised many thousands of dollars for charity over the past two decades. Official website here.

Sports and S/M

I just dug this one out of my GMSMA newsletter archives. The article below is from the publication NewsLink, of which I was editor for several years. That’s ME pictured on the left hand side in the picture below. I was the tied-up football player model for the demonstration conducted by Greg. What follows is a “program report” from an event that GMSMA, a NYC-based educational organization, offered on sports-themed S/M scenes:

Metal

 

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Having Fun With Jocks and S/M

By Richard

Blowing a referee’s whistle, GMSMA kicked off its second fall program, “Sports SM,” on September 27, 2000. A packed crowd of people wearing wrestling gear, referee’s uniforms, and football gear were eager to hear about the four panelists’ experiences with sport fetishes and SM.

Whether or not you are athletically inclined, the jockstrap remains the ubiquitous accessory of kink, says Peter B. Did you know that the jock strap’s history spans over 120 years? From its humble beginnings as the “jockey strap” for Boston bicyclists, it was given to soldiers around the turn of the century to reduce “scrotal fatigue.” Today, the jock strap has evolved into a variety of designs, along with its pal, the groin cup. On display were jocks for hockey and boxing, with groin cups for cricket (from Australia), for hockey (from Sweden). For more information, visit the quintessential jockstrap web site at http://www.allkink.com.

 

Hockey

 

“Hockey is my mistress and domination,” says Mr. Z. “It’s a sadistic mistress because hockey gets you injured.” Mr. Z spoke about the parallels between SM and hockey.   Take the “cup check,” for instance — taking the butt end of his hockey stick, a player will come up behind a fellow player and put the stick between the other player’s legs and tap his cup. Or, remember the film Youngblood (1986), when hockey teammates pinned Rob Lowe to a table and shaved his groin?

He suggested the following scenes for “hockey SM”: 1) putting clothespins on your bottom’s butt, then snapshooting them off with the hockey stick; 2) shooting street hockey balls at the bottom; or 3) the bottom, wearing hockey gloves, tries to get at the hockey puck while you play keep away.

 

Football Gear Fetishes

 

Dressed in football gear, Greg is drawn to the mouthpiece and the neck roll. He gets a turn-on dressing up another guy in football gear, then tying him up. He gave us a demonstration of how to properly don football gear, using Fred as a model:

1) Start with a guy with a cup

2) Put on the official NFL socks

3) Put on hip pads

4) Don the girdle

5) Pull up the football pants

6) Put on the football shoes

7) Put on the shirt

8) Put on triceps pads and elbow guards

9) Put on rib pads (for quarterbacks)

10) Put on shoulder pads

11) Tape things down

12) Don the football jersey

13) Lace up the football shorts/pants

 

Boxing

 

A boxing scene can be a good mindfuck, says Guy. He presented a dramatic reading of his experiences with a bottom in DC who had face punching fantasies. Before meeting him, Guy instructed his bottom to take aspirin and drink lots of water, “to bleed more satisfyingly when [he] busted him up with [his] fists.” The most important part of the scene is the insertion of the mouthpiece-“it pushes out the lips, makes you looked stupid, really turns you into a human punching bag.”

 

You get the picture. Guy says that, “in ‘edgeplay’ stuff like this, you learn profound things about yourself, and about other people-about the power of the unconscious.”

 

Getting into SM Sports Scenes

 

Adding sports fetishes to your SM repertoire shouldn’t break your budget. Almost all the items shown this evening can be found at your local sporting goods stores. A hockey stick runs about ten to forty dollars, while it costs $300 for a new football uniform. However, because football helmets must be sized to the wearer, sporting goods stores will not let you buy a football helmet for someone else who is not there to try it on.

 

Finally, as with all SM scenes, it is very important to have a discussion with your fellow player before getting into the scene. Gauging the player’s experience and knowledge is especially important where a sports scene involves injury (such as taking punches in the gut or face). For instance, people who have fantasies about being seriously injured may only have a limited understanding of the reality of having those injuries.

 

 

For more information about GMSMA NewsLink, click for this posting

Also check out this posting about the final meeting of GMSMA, which was in 2009.

 

Metalbond 4.0

Welcome to the newly re-designed Metalbond site. Do you like it? I must give a big thank you to tallglassofoj for his professional web development services. This new look marks the fourth iteration of the Metalbond site. And I am so glad to have this fresh look online, just in time for this weekend’s Folsom Street East block party here in NYC, where Metalbond will be one of the official exhibitors! If you live in NYC or are visiting, be sure to stop by on West 27th Street between 11 and 4 tomorrow, Sunday, June 22, 2014, and say hello in person (more on that below).

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I started Metalbond on May 18, 2003, to be exact, on Blogspot, which was the forerunner to Blogger. That original site is still online. Way back then, a friend and play buddy at the time, LTHR EDGE, was doing a project in which he wanted to get 100 people to start blogs, so I figured what the heck and started one of my own, under his encouragement. It was text-only, more of a journal really. Here is what that original site looked like:

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Then in 2009, I got more serious about things and started up a new site, hosted by the (now-defunct) Thumblogger free service, complete with lots of pictures and external links. Kristofer Weston, aka Mr. Kristofer, helped me out quite a lot back then, to get started. Sadly, Thumblogger vanished a few years back, but if you go to the WaybackMachine and search for metalbond.thumblogger.com, you can still see that old site, which is surprisingly intact. This is what my old Thumblogger site looked like:

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Fortunately, by the time Thumblogger vanished, I had already migrated to paid web hosting, where I have been ever since. It has been a lot of fun running this website as a “side project” (I work full-time). Looking at my back-end dashboard just now, I see that I there are currently more than 2,400 postings here, including more than 340 stories. That’s a lot of jackoff material, ain’t it?

But it’s fun. And through this website, I’ve had the opportunity to meet lots of great guys and have some very cool adventures, including multiple visits to Serious Male Bondage, where I got to be featured in some of their photo shoots and videos. Mark of Serious Male Bondage has been a huge help to me over the years, offering tons of advice and encouragement. Another highlight for me, made possible by Mark, was getting to meet and interview Van Darkholme of Kink.com in person at the Armory in San Francisco. I also got to meet Bind of Men In Chains, and Richard Hunter of Mr S, and Ruff of Ruff’s Stuff, among many, many others. Last year, I was featured in a podcast over at the No Safe Word website, which was great fun, as well. (I haven’t met that crazy pervert Marknorth yet, or Rbbrstorage, but hopefully someday.)

So that brings us to New York City’s Leather Pride Weekend 2014, and Folsom Street East.

I was at the very first Folsom Street East. And the second. And the third … and way too many for me to remember. I was a bootblack back then, and I still have pictures somewhere of me doing that. Folsom Street East was founded by GMSMA, an organization I was involved with at the time. Back then the block party was on West 13th Street, in front of the LURE. Of course now the event is in Chelsea, near the NYC Eagle.

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So, be sure to stop by the official MetalbondNYC table at Folsom Street East and say hello. A few of my bondage buddies, including Pisslurper, will be there. We’ll be giving away free T-shirts, which were graciously provided by Master Mike. And we will have some handcuffs and other locking metal gear to try on, if you are brave enough (just ask). And I’m also going to try to do some live blogging from the event, as well. It should be fun. You’ll want to look for the guys in the orange prison jumpsuits.

 

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A newbie wants help breaking into the local gay bondage scene

A Metalbond reader recently sent me this via email:

Dear Metal,

I’m 33 years old, gay male. I’m looking to sort of “ease into” local gay BDSM. I’m a bit sexually shy, but I have, as long as I can remember, found myself attracted to BDSM. I’ve finally worked up the nerve to try and get into it beyond looking at websites. I’m looking for advice on how or where I should go in New York City to meet some people. If you have any advice, it would be greatly appreciated.

 

My response:

A great place to start is the New York Bondage Club. They meet on Sunday nights at Paddles on 26th Street. You can join in the action if you like, or just watch, and it is great place (in my opinion) for beginners.

The education-focused GMSMA (Gay Male S/M Activists) closed down several years back, but some of the alumni from this organization have formed BDSMU, which bills itself as “a new organization focused on building education and camaraderie in the NYC kink community.” They offer monthly events at the Eagle NYC. You can connect with BDSMU via their Facebook page.

Workshops and classes on various topics are also offered at The Leather Man (primarily gay men) and Purple Passion / DV8 (a more “heteroflexible” crowd) on various topics. Check their websites for class offerings, times and dates.

Also, if you haven’t already done so, should put up a profile on Recon. There are lots of local guys out there, and if you get the app you might find (since this in New York Fuckin’ City) that some very hot bondage stud is closer than you can imagine! And he can’t wait to get his hands on a horny newcomer like you!

When you do meet up with someone, be sure to be careful! That means meeting in a public place before going home with the guy, telling someone where you are going, etc. You might find this article from the Anti-Violence Project especially helpful.

Have fun — and send me an email sometime telling me about your adventures!

—Metal

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Men’s Group for Novices in S/M offered in New York City

**I posted this before, and I am told there are still spots available**

For those of you in NYC who are interested in learning more about S/M, a special educational opportunity is available starting in January 2014. A novices course is being led by my friend Gil. It is an excellent opportunity to learn in a safe and supportive environment. I know, because I took this course myself, many years back. It meets Sunday afternoons in January, February and March and it covers the basics like rope bondage, spanking and flogging, to more advanced play like electro and mummification.

See below for specific details.

—Metal

 

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TES (The Eulenspiegel Society) is sponsoring the Men’s Group Series for NOVICES in S/M, beginning January 5, 2014

THIS COURSE IS ONLY OFFERED ONCE A YEAR.

For the 25th year, Gil K will conduct a course consisting of 6 four-hour S/M workshops for both “Tops” and “bottoms” who have little or no experience (or who simply want to brush up on their skills). It is open to men who are at least 19 years of age, and is limited to 24 attendees maximum. You do not have to be gay or a TES member, but attendees must feel comfortable being nude at times (sessions 3, 4, 5, and 6) and working with other men. Everyone participates as both top and bottom, as we demonstrate and workshop everything in a way that is enjoyable, fun, but educational.

Among the areas covered will be basic bondage, spanking and flogging, tit and genitorture, rope harnesses, things that pinch, mummification, and electricity (see the schedule below). The course meets every other Sunday afternoon from 3-7 pm, beginning January 5. There is a one-time fee of $30 for TES members or $40 for non-members that covers all the supplies, notes, and refreshments for the course.

Here is the schedule:

1. Intro to S/M; Being a Good Top/bottom; Basic Rope Bondage, 1/5/14

2. Spanking and Flogging; handout: Caning, 1/19/14

3. Gags/Blindfolds; Tit Play & Genitorture (including Abrasion & Bruising), 2/2/14

4. Rope Harnesses; Things That Pinch; Orchestrating the Scene (& Role Play and Fantasies), 2/16/14

5. Mummification, 3/2/14

6. Basic Electricity for Pleasure; Round Table Discussion, 3/16/14

 

For more information or to apply, contact Gil at novices2014@yahoo.com, and leave your name and phone number. Gil will get back to you quickly.

Only those officially signed up for the course may attend, and no new people are added after session 2. It is not a “pick-and-choose” course, so do not apply unless you can attend most of the sessions (check with Gil about other attendance requirements). The workshops are held at Gil’s home in the West Village in New York City. If you are interested, make contact as soon as possible to reserve a place.

 

 

The LURE

Does anyone remember  the LURE leather bar in NYC? I wrote the article below for GMSMA’s newsletter, NewsLink, back in 2003, after my favorite leather bar closed down.

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Farewell to the LURE

By MetalbondNYC

The LURE, New York City’s popular leather bar, closed on April 9, 2003, after nearly a decade of being the place to go for leather guys. GMSMA, the Renegades, Iron Guard and other local groups held bar nights at the LURE, and after the Manhole closed the bar became home to GMSMA’s Dungeon Demos. The LURE was also home to its own events such as the popular Pork on Wednesdays, regular rubber and uniform nights, foot fetish parties, and more.  You could shop in the Noose II store, and get your boots shined by the bootblack on duty.  The bar also popped up on HBO’s “Sex and the City,” when Samantha moved in upstairs.

The brainchild of the late Wally Wallace and bankrolled by a number of investors from within the community, the LURE (an acronym for Leather, Rubber, Uniforms, Etc.) opened in January 1994.   And while it did not actually turn a profit for its owners until several years later, leather men showed up in large numbers at the bar, which was jam packed every weekend in the early ’90s.

The LURE was a place to strut your stuff, to wear fetish attire of all kinds — leather and tall boots, cop or firefighter gear, rubber/latex, combat fatigues. Even guys dressed as gas station attendants were right at home there.  You could cruise for a hot leather daddy, collar a slave, or make out with a hot guy in the back.  And it wasn’t uncommon to see men there licking boots, torturing nipples, or even gulping down piss from beer bottles or glasses.

The bar was far from perfect — a dress code that was once enforced became somethig of a joke, as “tourists” and guys in sneakers would try to blend in with leather cops and rubbermen.  And that $7 cover charge seemed a little steep.  At least you got a ticket for your first drink.

As the rise of the Internet slowed business (who wants to schlep across town to pick up a trick when you can go online and “order in”?) attendance was way down, especially on Friday nights during the summer months.  When the Eagle re-emerged on West 28th Street, it drew many men away from the LURE, but most of the leather guys stayed.

In the end, some of the same forces that led Samantha to take that apartment upstairs contributed to the demise of the LURE.  Real estate in the Meat Market district became red hot as condos, nightclubs and restaurants started popping up like weeds.  The LURE’s lease was up, giving the landlord the opportunity to jack up the rent.  And when insurance premiums skyrocketed as well, it made the LURE’s existence at its West 13th Street location no longer finiancially viable for its owners.  There was talk of the bar relocating to a new space, but that turned out to be just talk.

Many of us will always have good memories of the LURE and the good times we had there over the years.   And we’ll also remember many of its former employees — Russ and John, the two bartenders who stayed with the bar for the whole run.  And Joey, one of the bar’s first managers, who was always there in full leather, rubber or fetish gear to greet regular customers with a smile.  And don’t forget Dominic, who with his tattoos and piercinngs was the most intimidating-looking doorman New York has ever seen.

So it’s the end for the LURE, at least for now.   It just goes to show that nothing lasts forever.  Just ask those who used to hang out at the Spike, the Altar and even the Mineshaft.

 

 

 

GMSMA NewsLink

!NewsLink49-50Before I had this website, waaaaaay back a long time ago, I was a member of Gay Male SM Activists (GMSMA), a New York City-based organization. GMSMA aimed to promote safe, sane and consensual SM through three “pillars” — education, activism and social activities. Sadly, GMSMA closed up shop a few years back. (To read about that, click here.)

I was editor of NewsLink, the newsletter for GMSMA, for about five years, and I was recently going through some boxes of old stuff and I came across a bunch of old issues. Here is a sampling:

NewsLink_inside_JocksSM NewsLink_inside_TattooJourney_cover NewsLink_inside_TattooJourney_inside NewsLink45 NewsLink56I did not want to throw my extra copies away, so Hilton over at Purple Passion here in NYC graciously agreed to distribute them. You can stop by Purple Passion, located at 211 West 20th Street just west of 7th Avenues in Manhattan, and pick up a copy.

While you;re at it, you might want to buy something, because they are having a huge sale this week. They also have a very large stock of vintage magazines available for really cheap.

Click the box below for the Purple Passion website:

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If you stop in, be sure to tell them that Metalbond sent you!