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Excellent book: ‘Twentieth Century Leatherman’ by Drew D. Kramer

I just finished a fantastic book by Drew D. Kramer, “Twentieth Century Leatherman: An Argument, A History, A Love Story.”

Drew is a seasoned BDSM veteran who recounts his exploits at several legendary NYC establishments including the Mineshaft. There is some hot bondage, as well as lots of flogging and whipping. The story, lovingly told, takes place over several decades.

A semi-autobiographical novel depicting the life, loves, joys, and heartbreaks of a gay man as he evolves from novice submissive in 1970s New York City to mature leatherman in early 21st-century Palm Springs, California

I was greatly moved by his book, and I hope the author writes another one soon! You can purchase ‘Twentieth Century Leatherman’ on Amazon. Highly recommended!

Save the date: Memorial service for Andrew Harwin

Andrew Harwin, who died recently, was a member of Inferno, Delta, GMSMA and many other organizations. He was one of the organizers of the popular Folsom Street East block party here in NYC. There will be a memorial service for Andrew on Sunday, Sept. 29, 2019, from 3 to 5 p.m., at the LGBT Community Center in New York. It will be a wonderful opportunity to reminisce, to connect with those who knew and remember Andrew, and to help celebrate his life.

Andrew harwin

David Stein: Writer, editor, activist and publisher

I learned with great sadness last night that David Stein, also known as slave david stein, has died. I do not know any of the details.


David was an author and publisher of BDSM-themed books, both fiction and nonfiction. His most popular works included “Carried Away: An SM Romance,” an erotic novel; and “Ask the Man Who Owns Him: The Real Lives of Gay Masters and Slaves,” a non-fiction book in which a number of real-life Master/slave couples share their stories. David self-published his books — along with many more by other authors — via his publishing company, Perfectbound Press. His fiction and non-fiction writing was also published in Drummer, DungeonMaster, Mach and many other gay underground magazines back in the day.

David was one of the founders of GMSMA (Gay Male S/M Activists), which was a New York City-based organization of gay men dedicated to “safe, sane, consensual s/m.” As an officer of GMSMA and longtime volunteer and editor of NewsLink, the organization’s newsletter, David helped educate countless others on safety and technique. He wrote a column on safety for Bound & Gagged magazine, called “Bond+Aid.” Over the years he was a volunteer, speaker and presenter at many leather and SM events, including numerous International MAsT (Masters and Slaves Together) weekends, the Leather Leadership Conference, the Master/slave Conference, South Plains Leatherfest, and Leather Pride Night.

He was also an active on many online discussion groups over the years, including FetLife.

His most recent project was “Our Lives, Our History: Consensual Master/slave Relationships From Ancient Times to the 21st Century,” a non-fiction anthology edited by Peter Tupper, which he published under Perfectbound Press. His books are also available on Amazon.

According to his profile on FetLife, David was in service to Sir Brian. He is also survived by many former Masters and fellow slaves, as well as countless friends. He will be greatly missed.

TBT: Chastity striptrase at Folsom Street East

I took these pictures of my dear friend Ray (of blessed memory) at the Folsom Street East block party here in NYC back in 2015. Ray sure knew how to rock a chain collar and fetish wear — and he showed off his metal chastity cage underneath! Check it out:


Folsom Street East recently held its 20th event, and I am proud to have been involved in helping launch it along with many others from GMSMA. The event has raised many thousands of dollars for charity over the past two decades. Official website here.

Sports and S/M

I just dug this one out of my GMSMA newsletter archives. The article below is from the publication NewsLink, of which I was editor for several years. That’s ME pictured on the left hand side in the picture below. I was the tied-up football player model for the demonstration conducted by Greg. What follows is a “program report” from an event that GMSMA, a NYC-based educational organization, offered on sports-themed S/M scenes:





Having Fun With Jocks and S/M

By Richard

Blowing a referee’s whistle, GMSMA kicked off its second fall program, “Sports SM,” on September 27, 2000. A packed crowd of people wearing wrestling gear, referee’s uniforms, and football gear were eager to hear about the four panelists’ experiences with sport fetishes and SM.

Whether or not you are athletically inclined, the jockstrap remains the ubiquitous accessory of kink, says Peter B. Did you know that the jock strap’s history spans over 120 years? From its humble beginnings as the “jockey strap” for Boston bicyclists, it was given to soldiers around the turn of the century to reduce “scrotal fatigue.” Today, the jock strap has evolved into a variety of designs, along with its pal, the groin cup. On display were jocks for hockey and boxing, with groin cups for cricket (from Australia), for hockey (from Sweden). For more information, visit the quintessential jockstrap web site at https://www.allkink.com.




“Hockey is my mistress and domination,” says Mr. Z. “It’s a sadistic mistress because hockey gets you injured.” Mr. Z spoke about the parallels between SM and hockey.   Take the “cup check,” for instance — taking the butt end of his hockey stick, a player will come up behind a fellow player and put the stick between the other player’s legs and tap his cup. Or, remember the film Youngblood (1986), when hockey teammates pinned Rob Lowe to a table and shaved his groin?

He suggested the following scenes for “hockey SM”: 1) putting clothespins on your bottom’s butt, then snapshooting them off with the hockey stick; 2) shooting street hockey balls at the bottom; or 3) the bottom, wearing hockey gloves, tries to get at the hockey puck while you play keep away.


Football Gear Fetishes


Dressed in football gear, Greg is drawn to the mouthpiece and the neck roll. He gets a turn-on dressing up another guy in football gear, then tying him up. He gave us a demonstration of how to properly don football gear, using Fred as a model:

1) Start with a guy with a cup

2) Put on the official NFL socks

3) Put on hip pads

4) Don the girdle

5) Pull up the football pants

6) Put on the football shoes

7) Put on the shirt

8) Put on triceps pads and elbow guards

9) Put on rib pads (for quarterbacks)

10) Put on shoulder pads

11) Tape things down

12) Don the football jersey

13) Lace up the football shorts/pants




A boxing scene can be a good mindfuck, says Guy. He presented a dramatic reading of his experiences with a bottom in DC who had face punching fantasies. Before meeting him, Guy instructed his bottom to take aspirin and drink lots of water, “to bleed more satisfyingly when [he] busted him up with [his] fists.” The most important part of the scene is the insertion of the mouthpiece-“it pushes out the lips, makes you looked stupid, really turns you into a human punching bag.”


You get the picture. Guy says that, “in ‘edgeplay’ stuff like this, you learn profound things about yourself, and about other people-about the power of the unconscious.”


Getting into SM Sports Scenes


Adding sports fetishes to your SM repertoire shouldn’t break your budget. Almost all the items shown this evening can be found at your local sporting goods stores. A hockey stick runs about ten to forty dollars, while it costs $300 for a new football uniform. However, because football helmets must be sized to the wearer, sporting goods stores will not let you buy a football helmet for someone else who is not there to try it on.


Finally, as with all SM scenes, it is very important to have a discussion with your fellow player before getting into the scene. Gauging the player’s experience and knowledge is especially important where a sports scene involves injury (such as taking punches in the gut or face). For instance, people who have fantasies about being seriously injured may only have a limited understanding of the reality of having those injuries.



For more information about GMSMA NewsLink, click for this posting

Also check out this posting about the final meeting of GMSMA, which was in 2009.


Metalbond 4.0

Welcome to the newly re-designed Metalbond site. Do you like it? I must give a big thank you to tallglassofoj for his professional web development services. This new look marks the fourth iteration of the Metalbond site. And I am so glad to have this fresh look online, just in time for this weekend’s Folsom Street East block party here in NYC, where Metalbond will be one of the official exhibitors! If you live in NYC or are visiting, be sure to stop by on West 27th Street between 11 and 4 tomorrow, Sunday, June 22, 2014, and say hello in person (more on that below).


I started Metalbond on May 18, 2003, to be exact, on Blogspot, which was the forerunner to Blogger. That original site is still online. Way back then, a friend and play buddy at the time, LTHR EDGE, was doing a project in which he wanted to get 100 people to start blogs, so I figured what the heck and started one of my own, under his encouragement. It was text-only, more of a journal really. Here is what that original site looked like:


Then in 2009, I got more serious about things and started up a new site, hosted by the (now-defunct) Thumblogger free service, complete with lots of pictures and external links. Kristofer Weston, aka Mr. Kristofer, helped me out quite a lot back then, to get started. Sadly, Thumblogger vanished a few years back, but if you go to the WaybackMachine and search for metalbond.thumblogger.com, you can still see that old site, which is surprisingly intact. This is what my old Thumblogger site looked like:


Fortunately, by the time Thumblogger vanished, I had already migrated to paid web hosting, where I have been ever since. It has been a lot of fun running this website as a “side project” (I work full-time). Looking at my back-end dashboard just now, I see that I there are currently more than 2,400 postings here, including more than 340 stories. That’s a lot of jackoff material, ain’t it?

But it’s fun. And through this website, I’ve had the opportunity to meet lots of great guys and have some very cool adventures, including multiple visits to Serious Male Bondage, where I got to be featured in some of their photo shoots and videos. Mark of Serious Male Bondage has been a huge help to me over the years, offering tons of advice and encouragement. Another highlight for me, made possible by Mark, was getting to meet and interview Van Darkholme of Kink.com in person at the Armory in San Francisco. I also got to meet Bind of Men In Chains, and Richard Hunter of Mr S, and Ruff of Ruff’s Stuff, among many, many others. Last year, I was featured in a podcast over at the No Safe Word website, which was great fun, as well. (I haven’t met that crazy pervert Marknorth yet, or Rbbrstorage, but hopefully someday.)

So that brings us to New York City’s Leather Pride Weekend 2014, and Folsom Street East.

I was at the very first Folsom Street East. And the second. And the third … and way too many for me to remember. I was a bootblack back then, and I still have pictures somewhere of me doing that. Folsom Street East was founded by GMSMA, an organization I was involved with at the time. Back then the block party was on West 13th Street, in front of the LURE. Of course now the event is in Chelsea, near the NYC Eagle.


So, be sure to stop by the official MetalbondNYC table at Folsom Street East and say hello. A few of my bondage buddies, including Pisslurper, will be there. We’ll be giving away free T-shirts, which were graciously provided by Master Mike. And we will have some handcuffs and other locking metal gear to try on, if you are brave enough (just ask). And I’m also going to try to do some live blogging from the event, as well. It should be fun. You’ll want to look for the guys in the orange prison jumpsuits.