Metalbond mail: Blog reader asks for advice after a heavy scene

Hi Metalbond,

I consider you my mentor and subject matter expert when it comes to intense bondage. I had an amazing bondage weekend, with eight different intense bondage scenes in less than 60 hours. The Sir said I that in one weekend I was “a boy, a pup, a pig, a puppet, a slave and a sub.” As much as I crave the feeling and the scenes were all amazing, by the time I got home after a four-hour train ride, I got home alone and I felt this immense down feeling that the body is trying to figure out what’s going on. I wonder if it were all the screaming though the gag, heavy-duty hood, or struggling through the tight arm binder hogtie or the rubber gimp suit or sleep sack with heavy rope tie down bondage that exhausted my stress and energy and the body is feeling empty or down. I have been asking my bondage friends, many of whom have experienced that. Have you? If so what do you do to deal with it and mitigate it?



Metal responds,

Hey there, thanks for getting in touch!

Sounds like you had an awesome weekend, and with all that struggling it is no wonder you are exhausted.

My advice is to take it easy, get a good night’s sleep, beat off if you haven’t already, and in the morning have some gatorade (you need to replenish your elecrolytes!) and also a good stretch or even a massage.

Eight scenes in less than 60 hours? Do you know how many guys would give their left nut for that sort of treatment? Fucking awesome.

Enjoy the afterglow, buddy. You have earned it.


S/M training course for novices starts in January

Hey fellas, a lot of you ask me from time to time about where you can learn more about s/m. A great place to start, if you are located in New York City, is a special, six-session “Novices in S/M” course, to be held starting in January.

Here are the details:


TES (The Eulenspiegel Society)

is sponsoring the

Men’s Group Series for NOVICES in S/M

beginning January 11, 2015



For the 26th year, Gil will conduct a course consisting of six four-hour S/M workshops for both “Tops” and “bottoms” who have little or no experience (or who simply want to brush up on their skills). It is open to men who are at least 19 years of age, and is limited to 24 attendees maximum. You do not have to be gay or a TES member, but attendees must feel comfortable being nude at times (sessions 3, 4, 5 and 6) and working with other men. Everyone participates as both top and bottom, as they demonstrate and workshop everything in a way that is enjoyable and fun, but educational.

Among the areas covered will be basic bondage, spanking and flogging, tit and genitorture, rope harnesses, things that pinch, mummification and electricity (see the schedule below). The course meets every other Sunday afternoon from 3-7 pm, beginning January 11. There is a one-time fee of $40 for TES members or $50 for non-members that covers all the supplies, notes and refreshments for the course.


Here is the schedule and topics:

Jan. 11, 2015: Intro to S/M; Being a Good Top/bottom; Basic Rope Bondage

Jan. 25, 2015: Spanking and Flogging; handout: Caning

Feb. 8, 2015: Gags/Blindfolds; Tit Play & Genitorture (including Abrasion & Bruising)

Feb. 22. 2015: Rope Harnesses; Things That Pinch; Orchestrating the Scene (& Role Play and Fantasies)

March 8, 2015: Mummification

March 22, 2015: Basic Electricity for Pleasure; Round Table Discussion


For more information or to apply, contact Gil at, and leave your name and phone number. Gil will get back to you quickly.

Only those officially signed up for the course may attend, and no new people are added after Session 2. It is not a “pick-and-choose” course, so do not apply unless you can attend most of the sessions (check with Gil about other attendance requirements). The workshops are held at Gil’s home in the West Village in New York City. If you are interested, make contact as soon as possible to reserve a place.


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