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Congratulations to IML 2025 Rene Hebert: A Leather Titleholder Who Truly Shines

By Metal

Every year, the International Mr. Leather event in Chicago brings us moments of inspiration, pride, and joy. This year was no exception. I want to offer my heartfelt congratulations to Rene Hebert, Mr. Palm Springs Leather 2025, who was named International Mr. Leather 2025.

But this post isn’t just a congratulations. It’s also a personal reflection, because Rene’s win means a lot to me in ways that go far beyond a title sash or a victory walk across the stage.

For one thing, Rene is not only a leather man but also a bootblack, and that struck a deep chord with me. I competed as a bootblack at IML in 1998 and 1999 (that’s how old I am!), and I was honored to be first runner-up both years. That time in my life shaped me profoundly. I was encouraged in this endeavor by Philip Williams, an Old Guard leather man I met in New York City who knew a great deal about intimacy, trust, tradition, and power, and who had a profound effect on me. Philip taught me not only about bootblacking, but also about finding erotic energy in humble, grounded acts of service. It was Philip who taught me how to wear leather and who helped me purchase my first pair of chaps, paid for with tips I earned bootblacking! Philip also insisted I donate a large portion of the tips I earned while bootblacking to charity. Fast forward to today, and seeing someone like Rene, who proudly embodies values of service and community, ascend to the IML title, well, it brought everything full circle for me.

But there’s more. Some of you may recognize Rene from his online alter-ego of Buck Harder on TikTok — that’s actually where I first discovered him. His feed is smart, sexy, and full of heart. He shares educational and empowering content about leather, kink, and bootblacking. What struck me most was how out and proud he is, using his platform to be visible, vocal, and real in a world that too often tells us to hide.

Buck Harder on TikTok

 

I had the pleasure of meeting Rene in person earlier this year at Mid Atlantic Leather. I recognized him from TikTok! He was working the door, collecting tickets, and I remember turning to my friend and saying, “Now that guy is giving some serious leather top energy!” There was just something about him — the confidence, the presence, the quiet power. You could feel it.

And then came IML this May in Chicago, and with it, this wonderful speech from the stage. Watching the clip brought a tear to my eye. (Click HERE to watch.) Rene didn’t just talk about kink or leather or titles, he talked about the importance of being unapologetically ourselves. In a political climate that feels increasingly hostile to queer people, to trans people, to anyone outside the norm, his message landed like a rallying cry.

It reminded me why we have leather titles in the first place: not for ego or glory, but to represent, to serve, to advocate, to stand tall for our communities. Rene is doing just that, and doing it beautifully.

Of course, Rene isn’t the only one who made an impression at IML this year. Congratulations as well to Zephyr Merkur, Mr. Eagle NYC 2025, named First Runner-Up, and to Michael Tikili, Mr. Pittsburgh Leather Fetish 2024, who was honored as Second Runner-Up. It was a strong class, and each of them brought something powerful to the stage. (To learn more about ALL the IML contestants this year, click here.)

Congratulations to IML 2025 Rene Hebert
Photo: https://x.com/IMLchicago

 

I’m especially thrilled for Rene—for the bootblack, the self-described nerd, the kinkster, the educator, the man singing showtunes in his car and hitting the gym and taking unapologetic thirst-trap selfies. He’s not only a worthy IML, he’s the kind of titleholder our community needs right now.

So here’s to you, Rene. Thank you for your visibility, your voice, and your leadership. And from one bootblack to another, thank you for making us proud!

The second ‘Leather Life’ book by Peter Fiske

Peter Fiske has published a second book, titled “My Leather Life: Later Years,” available as a paperback purchase via Amazon. The description reads:

“At the center of leather life for 50 years, Peter Fiske whips up leather history in this delightful second volume of his memoirs, covering the years since the AIDS crisis emerged in the 1980s. He takes us through his relationship with the love of his life, Coulter Thomas, the founding of The 15 Association, and the struggle for trans acceptance. A must read for leatherfolk.”

My Leather Life: Later Years book by Peter Fiske

 

Click for My Leather Life: Later Years

The first book by Peter is My Leather Life: Early Years

Remembering Gil Kessler

Gil Kessler GMSMAGil Kessler, a longtime educator and a pillar of the leather community, passed away on June 5, 2022, at age 85. Gil was a kind-hearted man and a dear friend. He touched countless lives over the years.

Gil was born June 27, 1936. He was a longtime resident of the West Village of Manhattan, and he had a home in Port Jervis, N.Y. He also had lived in Brooklyn, N.Y. He worked as a math teacher in the New York City public schools, and in his retirement he co-authored a mathematics textbook. He was an avid reader of books, and he enjoyed movies, TV, theater, and the performing arts, all of which he could discuss at length and with great enthusiasm. For many years he was active in Times Squares, an LGBTQ+ square dancing club in New York City.

Gil is survived by a husband, Damani, as well as biological family members, many former students, and countless friends. He was predeceased by two life partners, Rick DiOrio, who died of AIDS in 1990, and Augie Kalin, who died of a major stroke in 2011.

As those of us who had the pleasure of knowing Gil will attest, he was an absolute joy to be with. He was friendly, charming, caring, and endearing. He was a gentle soul. He played the piano. He was known to smoke a little pot once in a while. He was also highly organized and efficient. He carried with him always a BIC 4-Color Retractable Ballpoint Pen and a small miniature notepad, which he would use to make notes to himself.

Gil, along with many others, was among the key officers and directors who served the gay male leather community via GMSMA (Gay Male S/M Activists), a trailblazing organization that disbanded in 2009. Gil was also a member of the Delta Brotherhood, the Eulenspiegel Society, and an honorary board member of the Leather Archives & Museum in Chicago. He served as a judge at IML (the International Mr. Leather contest) one year in Chicago.

It was through his work with GMSMA that Gil had the greatest impact. Among the organization’s many educational endeavors were SIGs (Special Interest Groups) designed for novices to learn about s/m play in a safe and supportive environment. The SIGs taught participants all about safety, technique, and the psychological aspects of engaging in such activities as flogging, whipping, rope bondage, chains, mummification, and many other activities — all without any hint of shame or embarrassment whatsoever.

As Gil himself reported for NewsLink, the GMSMA publication, his Novices group for the 1997-98 season had 22 participants with everyone taking part as both top and bottom. The 13-session course went from November to June, meeting every other Sunday afternoon, with four-hour sessions workshopping all the basic topics, plus others such as strapping, verbal abuse, body and head harnesses, and temperature torture. By the third session, Gil said, the group was like a family, and by the last session, no one wanted it to end.

Gil led dozens of these SIGs over the years for hundreds upon hundreds of participants. It’s impossible to overstate the impact of Gil’s work over the years.

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While these words are heartfelt and sincere, they are incomplete and do not do justice to Gil’s memory. I am saddened that there has not been a celebration of life for Gil, or even an online memorial where people can post memories. If someone who is reading this is interested in organizing a gathering, perhaps something at the Center at some point, I do hope that they will step forward.

The man who put the S in Mr S

This is great timing for pride month! The GLBT Historical Society Museum in San Francisco is presenting an exhibition on the life and legacy of Alan Selby, the founder of Mr S. “The Mayor Of Folsom Street: The Life And Legacy Of Alan Selby,” on display through the end of September, recounts Selby’s story, putting it into context as part of the story of San Francisco’s SoMa neighborhood and the overall leather/BDSM culture.

Race Bannon has published an article about Alan Selby for the Bay Area Reporter (click the image directly below to read):

articles by Race Bannon

 

Many more leather/kink articles by Race Bannon here

More information on the GLBT Historical Society Museum’s exhibit here

For Mr S click here

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I thought you would live forever, Andrew

Andrew Harwin died today.

Andrew Harwin RIP

 

Andrew was a wise and spiritual man who was generous with his time and attention. He had many friends.

He was one of the organizers of the popular Folsom Street East block party and fund-raiser here in NYC. He was a member of Inferno and of Delta.

I got to know Andrew many years back when we served together on the board of GMSMA (Gay Male S/M Activists). I knew him as hard-working, kind, friendly and thoughtful.

Andrew was a longtime survivor of the HIV/AIDS epidemic. He bravely battled so many health crises over the years that I thought he would outlive us all.

He is going to be missed.

End of year message

Hey fellow prisoners,

As 2018 comes to a close and 2019 commences, I want to wish everyone a very happy new year! I know there have been many ups and downs this past year.

trans rights are human rightsChief among the downs has been the administration’s various attacks on the LGBTQ community, and especially attacks on the trans community. Let it be known to all, that the faggot cocksucker homo pervert who runs this this website welcomes ALL visitors, regardless of race, religion (or lack thereof), sexual orientation — or gender identity and expression. I can’t believe in 2018 it is even necessary to say this, but, FOR THE RECORD: I support supports the rights of those who identify as gay, straight, bisexual, lesbian AND transgender!

belly chain banned by tumblrAnother unfortunate development has been the new policy over at Tumblr, in which adult images are now being banned and pages disappearing altogether. That’s a real shame in my view, especially for those who are into more unusual or exotic fetishes. (If you are like me, you probably have discovered some fetishes you hadn’t even known were fetishes but now that you know about them, you think they are totally hot!) I have a Metalbond page over on Tumblr, and when the new policy was announced I went ahead and deleted all the dick pictures I had ever posted or re-blogged. Yet many of my completely non-explicit pictures were tagged as “sensitive content,” while on the app I am still seeing tons of dicks, so I am not even really sure what is happening.

Nevertheless, the new Tumblr policy does not affect this site — the official Metalbond site, the site you are on now — in any way, as I pay out of pocket for private web hosting and development and have done so since 2012. From time to time I receive contributions (via the PayPal link in the sidebar to the right), and I do wish to thank those who have kicked in a few bucks. Your support is greatly appreciated and goes to good use.

So you know, the Metalbond site will continue stronger than ever in the new year, with lots more content on the way including many new stories. Among the new fiction is a band new story series — a novel really — that is going to be very exciting, especially for sci-fi fans who are also interested in athletic gear and chastity! Watch for Chapter 1 of “Lucky Cup” to appear in the Prison Library very soon!

Meanwhile, I hope everyone is getting ready for the ball drop! If you are home alone tonight watching the festivities on TV as I am, be sure to lock yourself in something as the clock strikes twelve!

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