Today’s article about male chastity is a collaboration with Total Chastity.
Restriction, discipline, self-control. Male chastity has all the hallmarks of a practice that can completely change the dynamic of any relationship. But what if you made it permanent?
For many men, permanent chastity is the pinnacle of a submissive-dominant style relationship. Complete restriction, every hour of every day with no end in sight. But is it really like this?
One of the most common misconceptions is that permanent chastity means a man will be caged 24/7, and never experience any sexual release. While this can be true for some couples, it often isn’t like this and if you never allow the slave his sweet release then you could be missing out on many of the benefits of this kind of relationship.
Permanent chastity offers all the same benefits of a regular chastity relationship, but amplified. Physical and mental aspects intertwine to give the slave a new sense of self, bolstering their self-control, discipline, vulnerability and trust while the master can explore the sense of complete control they have over their partner.
Discover the many ways permanent chastity could enrich your lives in our frank and honest look at what it entails.
Psychological Benefits of Permanent Chastity
Making chastity a permanent fixture in your relationship brings a whole host of mental upheaval. For the slave it can be easy to be overwhelmed with anxiety and fear as he’s left wondering “when will the cage come off?” or “how long will I be free for?” Meanwhile, Masters can quickly succumb to the temptation of abusing their newfound power and must be careful to use chastity in a way that augments the existing dynamic.
When the right balance is found, though, permanent chastity can lead to a whole host of psychological benefits.
“I was initially apprehensive about the physical effects, but the emotional and psychological benefits have been incredible. It has opened up new avenues of intimacy and self-discovery within my relationship.”
—David, 23, Montana
The first area you’ll start to notice changes is in your self-control and personal discipline. While a chastity device does a good job keeping a man away from his cock, it’s not foolproof. If he really wants to get out then he will, even if it means bolt cutters. He might beg, he might plead, he might even bargain, but it’s up to the Master to maintain a strong will and not to give in to his slave.
This dynamic encourages both partners to exercise their own kind of self-control. Succeed, and not only will your chastity relationship get stronger, but you can start to apply the same skills to other aspects of your life.
As the pledge becomes more of a normal thing, you’ll both become more comfortable with it. Any initial reservations will fade away, and both will become better at resisting temptation. But then what?
Most couples will at this point start to push their boundaries. Staying locked up for a week wasn’t that bad, so why don’t we try a little bondage? How about some pain play, or electrostimulation. The empowerment you’ll feel from succeeding at chastity will empower you to try other things and be less hesitant about them. Again, this will feed into other areas of your lives and help you focus on doing the things that really matter to you.
And what comes with all these empowering psychological feelings? Well, you’ll feel good! Most couples who practice chastity find that over time their moods improve as they succeed in more and more aspects of their lives.
Permanent Chastity’s Impact on Relationships
Alongside the things you’ll personally feel on your journey into permanent chastity, your relationship will also change and grow. Letting someone have complete control over your pleasure (or taking control of someone else’s) is a big commitment, after all.
As you’d probably expect, this kind of relationship takes a lot of trust. There are plenty of examples of abuse that are thinly veiled as a kinky power dynamic, and plenty of dominants that are willing to take advantage of the situation. But if you do things right and work together, you’ll find that you have a much stronger, more trusting relationship.
To reach this point, you’re going to need the big C. No not cock, communication! Before, during and after any kind of chastity play you need to be having frank and honest chats with each other. What’s allowed? What isn’t? How did that make you feel? Did you like this?
“Embracing permanent chastity has brought a new level of intimacy and connection to our relationship. It has challenged us to communicate openly about our desires, boundaries, and fantasies, leading to a deeper emotional bond.”
—John, 34, Utah
It might seem awkward at first, but as the relationship develops discussing these things should become second nature, and over time you’ll find it much easier to communicate with each other. This communication should lead to a deeper understanding of your partner, which will help you keep a stronger, more intimate bond.
But let’s talk about what you’re really all interested in. How’s the sex?
One of the most common misconceptions about male chastity is that the slave never gets orgasms, you never have sex any more, and only the Master gets pleasure. This couldn’t be further from the truth!
Through careful manipulation of the amount of time locked up, how you act around each other, and how committed you are to the chastity dynamic, you’ll find that feelings like desire and anticipation will start to build. As your emotional connection strengthens, you’ll want each other to enjoy pleasure more and more. So when the time finally comes to fuck each other’s brains out, you’re going to have stronger, more intense orgasms and a lovely emotional high afterwards.
Not bad for a little chastity device, huh?
Long-Term Side Effects of Permanent Chastity
We’ve painted a rosy picture, but nothing’s perfect. There must be some kind of catch, right?
Well … sort of. There can be some side effects from wearing a chastity device long-term. Buuuut, they’re all temporary. After you remove the cage and keep it off for a while, you’ll find that any changes you had noticed go back to normal.
The most common changes you’ll notice are a bit of cock shrinkage (which some people might think is a benefit) or changes to the sensitivity of the penis. There can also be a slight odor problem as cages can get quite sweaty, so it’s important to remove the device for regular cleaning.
“The physical changes have been noticeable, but they have not diminished my sexual satisfaction. If anything, the heightened anticipation and intensity make the release all the more pleasurable.”
—Michael, 29, Ohio
Some men can also experience changes to their behavior, such as becoming more feminine, less assertive, or generally quieter. It’s hard to classify these as side-effects though as some dominants want their slave to behave this way, and all of these things can be achieved without chastity being involved.
Getting the Right Device for Permanent Chastity
We’ve talked a lot about emotions, feelings, and activities, but we’ve neglected the star of the show! If you’re going to start a permanent chastity pledge, you’re going to need a chastity device to enforce it.
There’s a whole host of different choices, but whatever style you go for you’ll mainly be choosing between a cock cage or a chastity belt. A cage covers the cock and prevents it from getting erect, whereas a belt covers the entire pelvic area (like a metal pair of pants) and prevents access to any genitals at all.
Generally men will go for a cage as their long-term chastity tool, as these are much less restrictive when it comes to clothing and using the bathroom. They’re also lighter and more comfortable, which can be a consideration when you’re wearing it all day.
Measuring for a Chastity Cage
The first step at a comfortable long-term device is taking the right measurements. This is a quick and simple process that you can either do with a soft tape measure, or a piece of string (if you use string make marks on the string at the appropriate points, then measure it next to a ruler).
- Make sure your penis is completely flaccid and about the usual size.
- Measure from the base to the tip of your penis. Hold the tape measure against your pubic bone and lay it along the top of your penis while you hold it with your other hand. This measurement will tell you which tube size you need.
- Measure the circumference of your penis and testicles. Place the tape measure all the way around your shaft and scrotum, against your pubic bone. Divide this measurement by 3.14 to find the ring size you need.
Once you know which size you need, the world is your oyster. There are a huge range of cages to choose from, so you can find one that suits your style. Most slaves opt for either a silicone or metal device for long term wear, as these tend to be the most comfortable.
Silicone cages are softer and more lightweight, and these come in a variety of colors. Metal cages are firmer and heavier, but these tend to have more style options available.
Don’t be disheartened if the first cage you choose isn’t right for you! Most slaves will go through a few options before they find the one they want to wear long-term.
Permanent Chastity: Is It Worth the Effort?
We’ll leave you to decide if permanent chastity is the right thing for your relationship. While it does have its challenges, there are definitely rewards that come with it. If you’re going to give it a try keep your eyes on the prize and remember the benefits we’ve discussed every time you start to waver.
You can do it!
