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The West is the best

I had the most amazing time on the West Coast the past couple of weeks. I was in Southern California for business, and after my work commitment ended I met up with my good friend socalbd for some play and socializing — and we both had the opportunity to meet the awesome Tiedfeetguy for dinner.

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Socalbd, as you guys know, is a longtime contributor to the Prison Library. He’s the author of the ongoing series ‘10 Days in Detention.’ It was great to hang out with him for a couple days. And as for Tiedfeetguy, I have been a longtime admirer of his two awesome websites, Baring My Sole and Captured Heroes, for ages and ages, and I am so glad to have finally had the opportunity to meet him in person. We talked shop about blogging, talked about our real lives, and we really hit it off well.

From Southern California I flew up to Seattle, for another work commitment, and when that ended I was able to have some kinky fun and do some sightseeing as well. I took in a Mariners game and saw a Seahawks uniform on display at the EMP museum. One night I went to The Cuff, where they were having a puppy night, and when I was there I ran into Sparky, Mikey, Damien, DrewLion and a bunch of other guys. The next day they invited me to attend a taping of the No Safe Word podcast, episode 137, featuring Mr. Rubber Ireland.

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I was the featured guest on a No Safe Word podcast a while back (episode No. 54), which we did via Skype, so it was really great for me to be there in person, and see firsthand how these guys make the magic happen. Here’s a shot of some of the No Safe Word guys — Sparky, Slyy and Mikey (from left) — that I took during the taping I attended:



As you can see, it is a combination recording studio, and dungeon playroom. I had a really great time. Unfortunately Daddy Tony was under the weather that day and could not make it — I missed you, Daddy Tony!

Also on my West Coast trip, I had a couple of really awesome play dates. Without going into too many details, let’s just say that one experience was something that I had been planning for and looking forward to for a very long time, and it was absolutely fantastic. I also had a bit of an impromptu hookup in my hotel room in Seattle with a really decent, hot and kinky guy who expanded my horizons a bit, and got me to try something I had not done before. Or even thought of. It was great.

And now I am finally back in NYC — but just for a about a week before I go away again.

Meanwhile, a lot of you guys have sent me stories, pictures and links and I am a bit behind in email correspondence. But I promise to write back to all you guys just as soon as I can. And I will of course be updating Metalbond at least once a day, so keep checking back for more!


The Cuff photo used above is by JoeInSouthernCA.



I love these guys

Check out Daddy Tony and Mikey


When I was in San Francisco a few years back, I had the pleasure of meeting Daddy Tony and his boy, Mikey. They are both into serious bondage — and they are EXTREMELY perverted, so we had lots to talk about.

Check out some of the action these guys got into a while back involving a flight suit, a gas mask, industrial rubber gloves, duct tape and the infamous BONDAGE CHAIR at Serious Male Bondage:

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Daddy Tony and Mikey are now living in Seattle, and you can find them over at the No Safe Word site and podcast.

Kink in the military

I enjoyed listening to “Sir Yes Sir” — the latest podcast over at No Safe Word.


The episode features Pup Jimmy (pictured above) and Skuff Pup, from the Army Reserves and Marine Corps, respectively, discussing their experiences, as well as Daddy Tony, who served in the Navy. For me, it was particularly interesting to hear three different perspectives — pre-Don’t-Ask-Don’t-Tell (Daddy Tony); Don’t-Ask-Don’t-Tell (Skuff Pup) and post-DADT (Pup Jimmy). Way to go, guys!


Episode 99 – Sir Yes Sir is available here.




Shameless plug: Also be sure to check out the Metalbond podcast from November 2013, available here.


Jamie Remembers James Bond

After he listened to my recent podcast over at the No Safe Word site, Metalbond reader Jamie sent in some personal recollections of James Bond (of blessed memory), The New York Bondage Club, Serious Male Bondage, and other reminiscences.

First, here is a picture of some of James Bond’s handiwork:


Jamie Writes,

Hey Metal,

I enjoyed your interview on No Safe Word. I met Tony and Mikey through Mark and Dale at Serious Male Bondage. It is funny how interconnected the community is. Dan Savage was interviewed on No Safe Word a while back. Anyway the reason for this, I just did an entry for my private journal that I wanted to share with you, as you were the inspiration.

Private Journal entry:

This morning I was tickled to see the Donlean cartoon I had e-mailed to my friend “Metal” posted on his website. This cartoon I can so relate to; as about the only way I can be truly relaxed it to be restrained. That way I don’t have guilt for not working: it is not my fault!

Anyway, on Metal’s site he had a link to his interview on the podcast, “No Safe Word.” I do enjoy this podcast. I’m acquainted with Daddy Tony and his boy, Mikey, two of the podcast hosts, through friends in San Francisco. I listened to the podcast as I typed out my journal entry for today. In Metal’s interview he mentioned “James Bond,” a good friend who passed away in 2011. I’ve never really documented how this man literally changed my life. Now I will.

James Bond was a bondage enthusiast and photographer. He provided a lot of the photography work for the magazine Bound and Gagged. I used to pick up this magazine at Rochester Custom Leathers back in the 1980s and 1990s.

It was in January 1998 in the dead of winter that I got my Gateway computer. I was living with Joe awaiting my transfer to Tuscaloosa, AL. I figured how my down time would be as good a time as any to join the computer age. Joe had been on-line for about a year. He would be my mentor.

Looking back, it almost seems like this all transpired back in the dark ages. Joe had an extra AOL disk, so I was able to get online without too much trouble. I can still hear the dial-up phone noises! Like everyone on AOL, I had multiple profiles: a regular profile and my “slut” one for the fun gay sites and chatrooms.

It was through a members profile search under my slut profile I located James Bond. (Does AOL still have profiles and chatrooms? I have not been an AOL member for many years.) I contacted James, and he invited me to stop by anytime to his New Jersey home.

James and I made arrangements to get together. I was to arrive on a Thursday night and then head out early Saturday morning. We met at a diner not far from Jim’s house, where we had dinner together and got to feel each other out. We returned to his place and I was like a kid in a candy store. In no time at all he had me in tight, comfortable, inescapable rope bondage.

That Friday afternoon I was laced onto his bondage board unable to move with a tight leather hood. I can still feel the total immobilization with the exception of my hooded head. The leather gag was inserted and buckled on, and then my eyes were covered. Rope slowly but firmly pulled my head back to the board so I could not move at all and was pretty much totally sensory deprived. This boy was flying!

In the evening Jim drove us into the city for the meeting of the New York Bondage Club. At this period of time the club met at Jay’s Hangout, which was located in the basement of the old Anvil. If I’m remembering right, this location was around 10th Ave and 14th St.

I saw this hot man entering the club wearing a Hellfire Jacket. I had to meet him. I went right up and introduced myself. His name was Bob, and things instantly clicked. He introduced me to his friend Eric, who was a manager of the leather store on Christopher St. I told Eric the story of how I was locked into a puppy cage there back in December 1993. Eric informed me that he was the one who locked me in that night!

As the night progressed, Bob took me places I never knew existed. He told me I should consider attending the Delta Run in September. He said I was a natural for the club.

As the year progressed I hemmed and hawed about attending the run. It was kind of at the last minute in early August I contacted Bob to see if I there were any openings. He got me a last minute invite. I sent in the check, and booked a flight.

Delta opened an entirely new perspective into my life. I was able to make a great new circle of friends with mutual interests.

I could write for days how intertwined my friend connections are through that initial Delta Run back in 1998.

Louis, whom I met at the 2002 run, was instrumental in getting me to sign up to go to college in 2003 through my work. He also got me into hiking with him on the Appalachian Trail. Through Louis I met his friends and connections in San Francisco. I feel a real sense of pride whenever I see myself in one of the banner ads for Serious Male Bondage. That is me on the left:


Through my friend connections I can definitely say my life has been drastically changed for the better.

It was after I retired Harold talked me into running for the Delta Board. I was elected and served two three-year terms. The club only exists to put on yearly “runs.” Not long into my tenure I was thrown into a situation whereby I was forced to act and respond in ways I never had before. Talk about a growing experience. Through my work on the board I’ve gained the confidence to not shy away responsibility when I know I can make a difference.

It was through that initial meeting of James Bond that forces went to work to reshape my life as I had known it. From Metal’s interview, it sounded like he had a similar experience. I’m sure James Bond never thought about what an influence he had upon my life. He lived his life fully, and he is sorely missed. I’m writing this out so he will never be forgotten, at least not by me.

Metal would like to thank Jamie for writing this!

To read more about James Bond, click here and here. To hear the podcast, click here.

Do you have personal recollections about something you might like to share? You can get in touch with me via the email address in the About tab.

No Safe Word podcast

I participated in a Podcast over at the No Safe Word site:


I had a great time talking with Sparky, Daddy Tony and Mikey — and they had a whole bunch of cool guys in the audience as well.

To play the podcast, click here.

They taped the audio long-distance over skype, so were able to see each other. That was extra fun for me, because Mikey was in a leather sleepsack the whole time! With a milking machine on his cock:



We talked about a whole range of topics, and if you want to follow along with some of the discussion points, you might want to check out these postings here at Metalbond:

Clips vs locks


Bound and Gagged magazine

James Bond


GMSMA newsletter

Metalbond’s cage


The Padded Cell Inmate


One error I made during the podcast: I mistakenly said the Padded Cell Inmate was in captivity for 28 days. It was actually 19 days.


Anyway. If any of you guys listen to the podcast and enjoy it, be sure to send some feedback to the No Safe Word guys. Also be sure to check out the other contents of the No Safe Word site. They have lots of other podcasts, plus tons of videos, stories and lots more.